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Unhappy I want my brother back. - April 1st 2012, 09:38 AM

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My brother Colton has a new girlfriend Ella and she's turning him against me, she's told him lies about me and he's believing everything she says. Last night we got into a big fight and he told me I can go kill myself. He knows I self harm and he got me to stop but last night because of him, I cut again. Our mum and dad are currently fighting for custody because of abuse alligations they are throwing at each other, so me and my brother are in foster care until the matter is resolved so we only have eachother, but now I don't even have him and I feel so alone. I have tried talking to my brother but nothings working, he keeps telling me all I am to him is an annoying kid, he won't even help me with my diabetes anymore and I hate doing the injection by myself as it hurts when I do it. Ella has told my brother that I hit her, when she threw the first punch so I hit her back, and I only hit her once whereas she hit my around 6 or 7 times before I defended myself. The foster parents son is 14 and he's kind of understanding but he's not my brother even though he tried to be. I just want Colton to see my side of the story and be my brother again.

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Re: I want my brother back. - April 1st 2012, 05:41 PM

He is, and always will be your brother. Unfortunately sometimes we have people in our lives that control us. Sometimes we end up picking a controlling person to be our girlfriend/boyfriend. As a sister, you really cant do anything but accept that hes dating a controlling person - and stand by him. You both are going through a very hard time, and I can tell that you really wish things went back to normal - but as time goes on, people change, things change, and some people get mixed up with the wrong thing or person. As his sister, just realize that he is in fact with a girl who likes to control him, and eventually chances are he will realize that and move on from her.

So, what I'm saying is try to still be his sister. Don't give up. We all go through rough times. Eventually he will realize who was always there for him: you. In the mean time, try to work on your independent skills.

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Re: I want my brother back. - April 7th 2012, 10:57 PM

My brother right now can't even look at me he calls me a snitch and he says it would b different if it was my oldest brother had done what he did. Let me start from the beggining. My parents left and then my brother came running down the stairs acting suspicious then his friend and two other boys i had never meet came inside the house. Then they went upstairs and a few minutes later i smelt smoke i went up stairs and listened outside his door which i knew was wrong but i did anyway and heared them saying how much more weed cost and if dip was better or not. I thought no my brother would never then i heared him say i just got money from my parents so i could by these ounces and i got scared and went in my room and texted my mom. After about 20 minutes the boys left and i went to my brother and told him i knew what he had done and i told mom he then took my wrists squezzed them hard and cussed and screamed at me and i knew he was high by the way he was acting and he then said I HAVE TO GET OUT OF HERE!!!! Then he caught the other boys before they left and got in the car with them leaveing me crieing in my room. When my parents got home my dad went out and found him. My parents told me what i did was the right thing but i kept thinking why do i feel so guilty. My brother came home and was ground till further notice and he just kept glareing at me. He hates me now and taunts me more then ever he hurts me inside with his insults and he keeps saying over and over im a snitch. I want to repare are realtionship that wasnt very good to start with and i want him to love me again but i dont know where to start. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!

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