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Unhappy Much Too Young - April 12th 2013, 09:03 PM

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So just last night, I was told that a girl from my old middle school has passed away. She was trying to run away, so she made a makeshift rope out of shoelaces and electrical cords and attempted to climb out of her bedroom window in her eighth-story apartment. Needless to say, the laces and cords were not enough to hold the weight of a 14-year-old girl. She fell the eight stories and died of her injuries the next day. I didn't know her really well, but I have worked with her in a couple of clubs we were both in. Now I'm not sure how appropriate it is for me to be upset about this. I barely knew her, and she did kind of bring it on herself by trying to climb out the window, but still... I'm finding myself very upset about this.


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Re: Much Too Young - April 12th 2013, 10:01 PM

Hi, MB c:

I'm really sorry to hear about this. It's very sad to hear. And of course it's appropriate for you to be upset about this. I mean, you mentioned you didn't know her that well, but you also mentioned that you were acquainted with her. Even if you barely knew the person, it can be very difficult to learn of their passing.

I hope you're doing okay. Take care.
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Re: Much Too Young - April 12th 2013, 10:21 PM

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss. It's totally ok for you to be upset about this. Sometimes we get upset about a passing, when we never even met the person before (IE: famous celebrities who pass, extended relatives, etc). So for you to have seen her, talked to her, and semi-known her, it's totally acceptable and understandable for you to be upset.

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Re: Much Too Young - April 12th 2013, 10:39 PM

Thanks, both of you, for your support.


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Re: Much Too Young - April 15th 2013, 07:16 PM

Hey,

Something similar happened to me, a few days ago actually. A girl from my old school was murdered.

I know exactly how you feel. It's definitely okay to be upset about this. She was way too young to leave the world. I hope you find yourself at ease soon.


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Re: Much Too Young - April 16th 2013, 01:24 AM

I think it is actually a really good thing you feel so affected. I'm sure her family and friends would take comfort in knowing somebody who didn't really know her is affected so deeply. It shows you remember her, you are saddened by her tragic death. And I do not really think it is her 'fault'. Yes her actions lead to her death, but it wasn't really a 'stupid' death. It was truly an accident. It's not as if she was just jumping out the window hoping to make it, she obviously felt it would be safe.

RIP to both of these girls who have passed.
   
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Re: Much Too Young - April 17th 2013, 11:44 PM

You have every right to be upset over this. When you know someone even a little bit who passed away a lot of the time it hits close to home. You've even had contact with her and so sometimes it can come as a shock or hurt to know they have passed. Maybe it also impacted you that she was so young when she died and that she died in such a way. Whether you knew her well or not, you did know her, and it is very fine that you are upset over this.

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Re: Much Too Young - April 18th 2013, 12:37 AM

Thanks, all of you. It makes me feel better to know that it's okay for me to feel this way. I've been keeping her in my prayers and I'm not as upset as I was, but this event will always hold a place within me.


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Re: Much Too Young - April 19th 2013, 03:47 AM

Wow, I'm really sorry to hear about this. She was so young... Had her whole life ahead of her. Even if you barely knew her, it's still okay to be upset. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family and you.
   
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