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You were so young: a letter - April 30th 2013, 06:25 AM

Today we found out that you died last week.

It was a car crash. You were twenty-two years old. The same age as me.

I didn't know you very well. We only met on a couple of occasions. But you were friends with many of my friends. You were lovers, even, with someone I care very deeply for. You broke her heart, but you were still very special to her. I could hear it in her voice on the phone, in the thickness of her tears. I could hear it as she told me she missed me and cared about me very much, and was so glad she would get to see me Friday and to be safe. To stay alive until she could see me again. Because your death has reminded us that life is not a promise, and it can leave us at any time.

I cried as I read all the things my friends and acquaintances were saying about you. How they shared their memories of you, and their sadness, their devastation. That you were such a bright spirit, and that you were so young. That you were gone too soon.

And you were. No one should have to die so young. Death is for people who are old and frail and sick, not people who are young and beautiful with promising futures and a fulfilling life. Especially in something so cruel, an "accident." It's not fair. It's not fair that you're gone. You were so young.

I'm so young. And I'm reminded of my own mortality. That I don't have forever to make things right, to get my life together, to make my own happiness. That I could be in an accident tomorrow. That in one blinding second, just going about my daily business, my life could be snuffed out, cut short. And that's it; I'm gone.

So no, I didn't know you well. But I can tell you this: I feel the pain, the pain of someone so wonderful lost so early, and I feel the fear, the fear that I too could have my life end early. But in addition you've reminded me to live in the moment. That there isn't necessarily going to be a "next time." That I need to appreciate the things and people I love in the moment. Because they won't always be there.

I am sad you died. But I know your death has reminded me, and an entire community, that we should appreciate each other more, while we can. You will live on in memory, and in how we treat each other.

Rest in peace. I hope that wherever you are is somewhere happy.

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For a little show
In the hazy milk of twilight
No one had to know
The moon asked the crow...
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Re: You were so young: a letter - April 30th 2013, 12:24 PM

It's really too bad when people die at such a young age, it's unfair. They shouldn't be taken from us when they have their whole lives ahead of them.

I'm sorry for your loss and your friends' loss.
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Re: You were so young: a letter - April 30th 2013, 11:35 PM

I sorry to hear about the loss your community has endured this past week. It's so very sad to hear, and to have someone so young pass away. I'm glad that you and others are taking something away from this; and that it has hopefully put you and everyone else into perspective with where they stand and how it can be changed within a blink of an eye.

Stay strong.

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I hope you know that you deserve it all. The best, the most honest, the most beautiful purest love in the world. Not only to be loved by others, but to be loved by yourself. To look in the mirror and think "Yes, I'm exactly who I want to be". To speak up and be proud of yourself. To be brave and open. You deserve the nicest and most caring people to walk into your life. You deserve it all, you know. The whole world...
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Re: You were so young: a letter - May 1st 2013, 12:19 AM

Very sad, really sorry to hear this.

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Re: You were so young: a letter - May 2nd 2013, 04:18 PM

Even if you don't know a person very well their death can still make an impact on a person, especially hearing how much potential a person could have had. But, even though you're right that sometimes things happen quickly and you or someone you know may not be here to see tomorrow, enjoy life to the fullest. Make every day count and be proud of what you have, and that's what matters most. It is unfair that this person died so young though.

Stay strong!


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Re: You were so young: a letter - May 2nd 2013, 05:24 PM

I'm so sorry about this
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