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My boyfriend's dog was put down today. :( - May 1st 2013, 12:25 AM

He texted me earlier to tell me and he's heartbroken. I could tell he was crying when I rang him briefly, but he didn't want me to come over or to talk on the phone. I'm gutted too - I've never had my own pet so I let myself fall in love with his dogs. Sophie was an overweight corgi and the gentlest, cuddliest, most loving dog you could ever meet.

I don't know what to say to him, especially as I think he wants his own space, but I hate the idea of him being so upset. It's our anniversary tomorrow. Also I don't know what to say to his family - I mean do I give them a card or is that a bit excessive?? Any advice would be appreciated.x


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Re: My boyfriend's dog was put down today. :( - May 1st 2013, 12:58 AM

I think you should give him some space for a little while. He will come to you when he is ready. if he was really close with his dogs he might need some grieving time, so I know it is really hard on you too but if he is acting like he wants to be alone give him space. just txt him to let him know you are their for him and that is prob the best thing you can do to help the pain. I think you guys will be together tomorrow for your anniversary though just give him some space right now.
   
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Re: My boyfriend's dog was put down today. :( - May 1st 2013, 08:21 PM

I think you need to give him alittle space. Tell him you are there for him, that you love him, and are sorry for the loss - and then take a step back. Pets are so much apart of our family that sometimes we grieve just as much for them as we would if a family member died.

So be there for him, but let him come to you if he needs help. Other than that, just text him once in awhile to check up on him and wait it out. Things will be back to as 'normal' soon, and you can then celebrate your anniversary.


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Re: My boyfriend's dog was put down today. :( - May 2nd 2013, 01:37 AM

So sorry about your boyfriend's dog. It's so difficult to lose a pet... It's like losing a family member. I can tell you something from my experience. When I lost my rabbit a few months ago, my best friend said he was really sorry and he talked with me for awhile then asked me how I was doing each day. This was really comforting and made me feel less alone. So I think you should tell him and him family that you're really sorry and and just check up on him, see how he's feeling.

I hope you and your boyfriend feels better soon. Losing a pet is difficult.
   
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Re: My boyfriend's dog was put down today. :( - May 2nd 2013, 02:27 PM

I'm so sorry about your boyfriend's dog
I can only imagine how difficult it must be for both of you. The same thing happened to my friend a couple of years ago. What I did was let her know I'm here for her, and then gave her some space. She ended up asking me to come to the park with her a few weeks later. We went bicycle riding and other outdoor/physical active games. It helped to take her mind off of it that way. This is from my experience, maybe you could do something similar?

It's really difficult losing a pet, especially when you're close with them. I say allow for grieving time, but also check up on him to make sure he's doing okay. Also make sure you, yourself is doing okay in this tough time. Take care
   
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Re: My boyfriend's dog was put down today. :( - May 2nd 2013, 04:15 PM

I'm really sorry about that! I know that it can be so hard to lose someone as beloved as a dog. I agree with what has been said that what you can do is let your boyfriend know you care about him a lot and that you will be there for him if he needs to vent. Then you can give him a bit of space to allow him to grieve whatever way he feels is best and he can still come to you if he needs someone. Check up on him sometimes to make sure he's okay and is getting through this, but also allow him to grieve. I think letting him know you care will go a long way.


   
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