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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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My baby sister - June 12th 2015, 01:22 AM

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Last night the worst thing i could ever imagine happened to me. My baby sister who was just 4 years old died. She fell from the third floor window and landed on the concrete outside. My mom was visiting Afghanistan with her family when this occurrence happened. She was rushed to the hospital and upon 4 hours of her arrival she was brain dead and after 6 hours she was taken off life support. As I am sitting here in the US I didn't get to see her before they buried her. I am angry and sad and I feel so many emotions I can't handle it. There is so much I just don't get. How couldn't the doctors save her in 4 hours? How couldn't they take her out of the country to India or to the US base. They are US citizens for fucks sake something should have been possible!! I guess this is just a rant or something but I mean its cruel that she was taken away like this especially when I feel they didn't exhaust all options. I may just be grieving but I don't even know how to grieve in a loss like this? How do you grieve the death of a 4 year old?

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Re: My baby sister - June 12th 2015, 01:44 AM

I am so so sorry for your loss. Honestly, there's no right way to grieve. You just have to take it day by day and figure out things that help you cope. Try to think about good times with her and write letters to her to help you out. I know that when I experience loss, I usually don't feel "closure" so I write. That could help you, too. Let me know if you need to talk. I don't know how it feels to lose a sibling, but I know how it feels to lose someone in general. I hope you start feeling better soon and can cope with this positively.

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Re: My baby sister - June 12th 2015, 01:57 AM

I really don't have any words for you, but I am so sorry for this. <3 I really want you to know that my heart goes out to you and I am a PM away.

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Re: My baby sister - June 12th 2015, 05:43 AM

I don't know what to say other than I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. <3

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Re: My baby sister - June 12th 2015, 03:22 PM

I'm sorry for your loss.
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Re: My baby sister - June 12th 2015, 03:59 PM

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Re: My baby sister - June 17th 2015, 11:40 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. I think anger is always a big part of grieving and thats okay. Yyou can grieve in your own way and as you are ready. Just remember we're here for you if you need us and that you aren't alone in this, okay?

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Re: My baby sister - June 18th 2015, 12:52 PM

I am so very sorry for your loss. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to grieve - we all should deal with tragedy however way we see fit. My best wishes to you and your family.
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Re: My baby sister - June 20th 2015, 08:31 PM

I'm really sorry for your loss. I don't know what it feels like to lose someone so young, but I do know what it feels like to lose a close family member. Whatever feelings you have are completely normal, even anger. Ranting can be very good, especially when you have a lot of different emotions that may change over time. Thoughts are with you and your family

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Re: My baby sister - June 23rd 2015, 02:35 AM

Hi, Karima.

I am so, so sorry about this, you have my condolences. That's so awful, I can't imagine how this must feel for you, losing your baby sister like this.

Remember that not everyone grieves the same way. I don't think there's a right or wrong way to grieve because everyone's different, you'll have your emotions that may change and you need to be able to let yourself feel those emotions. Having healthy ways to express those emotions and get them out is a good idea too so that you aren't bottling up your feelings. You're welcome to continue writing here too, okay? Even if it's just a rant, sometimes ranting is really helpful like Holly mentioned.

Along with that, try not to go through this alone. Open up to those around you about this when you feel you're ready. You deserve the support and comfort from those closest to you. Maybe it will feel slightly easier if everyone comes together. In the meantime, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take care, Karima.
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