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My Old Counselor - April 29th 2019, 07:36 PM

So my old counselor passed away 2 months ago and I just now found out. I am devastated. She was an amazing woman and helped so many people, including me. I am really going to miss her. I think that she is still helping us all in spirit though, because these last few months for me have been the best. I loved her like a grandmother. She was only 63 she died of the flu.


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Re: My Old Counselor - April 29th 2019, 08:13 PM

Hello Court,

I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that you will be okay soon. When we have someone in our lives that we get to know so well and they become like family to us and then they pass away, it is hard to deal with.

Would you be able to talk to someone about this and let them know that you are having a hard time? Can you try talking with a therapist or a counselor and you can talk to them about this and they would be able to help you out. I know that sometimes when we are having a hard time with something, we may not always want to talk to someone, when you are ready and you want to try maybe you can.

Are you able to talk to your family or friends about this and let them know what has happened and thet you need some help with this. Even if it is just them being in the same room as you or the two of you going and doing something to try to get your mind off of this.

If you can try to do something to get your mind off of this for a while. For example, if you like to go for walks, try this and you can have music with you too. Or if you like funny TV shows or movies or reading or drawing or writing or painting or anything else that you enjoy doing.

Would you be able to make a scrapbook or make something else to remember her? It is always a good idea to have different memories of the person who was with you. In a scrapbook or if you have some pictures of her and you can put them in your room to help you with this or in your phone and you can look at it when you need to. If you want to have someone to help you to make a scrapbook or something else to help you out with this to help you so that you are not by yourself, you can ask someone.

When you have someone who has passed away, it is going to take time to be okay. Somedays you may be ok and other days you may not, just always take it one day at a time if you can. I hope that you will be alright soon. Sending you lots of hugs.


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Re: My Old Counselor - April 29th 2019, 11:24 PM

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Hello Court,

I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that you will be okay soon. When we have someone in our lives that we get to know so well and they become like family to us and then they pass away, it is hard to deal with.

Would you be able to talk to someone about this and let them know that you are having a hard time? Can you try talking with a therapist or a counselor and you can talk to them about this and they would be able to help you out. I know that sometimes when we are having a hard time with something, we may not always want to talk to someone, when you are ready and you want to try maybe you can.

Are you able to talk to your family or friends about this and let them know what has happened and thet you need some help with this. Even if it is just them being in the same room as you or the two of you going and doing something to try to get your mind off of this.

If you can try to do something to get your mind off of this for a while. For example, if you like to go for walks, try this and you can have music with you too. Or if you like funny TV shows or movies or reading or drawing or writing or painting or anything else that you enjoy doing.

Would you be able to make a scrapbook or make something else to remember her? It is always a good idea to have different memories of the person who was with you. In a scrapbook or if you have some pictures of her and you can put them in your room to help you with this or in your phone and you can look at it when you need to. If you want to have someone to help you to make a scrapbook or something else to help you out with this to help you so that you are not by yourself, you can ask someone.

When you have someone who has passed away, it is going to take time to be okay. Somedays you may be ok and other days you may not, just always take it one day at a time if you can. I hope that you will be alright soon. Sending you lots of hugs.
Thank you for your reply I have talked to my old case manager, current case manager, and sister about it. I do not wish to continue counseling, at least right now, as it would probably harm me more than help me, I know myself best and I feel that seeing another one right now would open the wound more. I did not have pictures of her as she was my counselor, so a scrap book or something like that is out. I will always remember her, what she had done for me, so no, no nothing like that.

I have been taking my mind off of it, I've been watching hulu and even went out for lunch with my current case manager.


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Re: My Old Counselor - April 30th 2019, 12:57 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your old counsellor. It sounds like she meant a lot to you and many others, I'm sure. It makes sense that you would have strong feelings for her, and loved her like a grandmother. She could very well be continuing to help in spirit, and I'm sure that she would be proud of how far you've come since having counselling.

You will always have your memories of her and how she helped you


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Re: My Old Counselor - May 1st 2019, 10:17 AM

Hi there,
I'm so sorry to hear about your old counsellor. It must of been devastating for you to only have just found out.
I don't have much advice to give but if you ever need anything, I'm here.


   
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