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I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. - February 22nd 2010, 04:28 PM

My step father was just diagnosed with stage IV non-small cell cancer. His doctor gave him six months to a year. Only 19% live beyond a year (as of 1997). My mother finally found a husband to treat her the way she deserves to be treated, who loves her grandchildren like his own. He's been more of a father to me since I was 15 than my own.

I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. I deal with this kind of thing really well, but I know my mom won't. I know I need to be there for her, but that doesn't seem like enough. What compounds the problem is that they have custody of my 4 and 8 year old nephews. My mom, on her salary will barely be able to afford to keep the house.

What do I do?

Searching my heart for its true sorrow,
This is the thing I find it to be:
That I am weary of words and people,
Sick of the city, wanting the sea;

Wanting the sticky, salty sweetness
Of the strong wind and shattered spray;
Wanting the loud sound and the soft sound
Of the big surf that breaks all day.

-Exiled, Edna St. Vincent Millay
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Re: I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. - February 22nd 2010, 09:30 PM

Sometimes the emotional pain can only be lessened by being there for someone. Perhaps there is something you can do, but not yet and if it is there it will show itself clearly. But for now you have to be there for your mother. Concentrate on that as much as you can for now. Then later at a certain time, if there is another part to play, it will be clear.

I came here to help out, so if you wanna talk or just need someone to bounce ideas or issues off of or something else then send me a message and I will reply as soon as I can.
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