bothering me

[chaosfactor]

my father passed away of cancer just a little over 6 months ago, and now my mums stopped putting his names on cards and stuff. i had my birthday not so long after he died and she didnt put his name on the card. i dont know why it bothers me so much, i guess i understand why she doesnt but it just bugs the living hell out of me! he hasnt dissapeared! hes still here!

it feels like shes ignoring him, just because hes not physically here.

a bit of a rant really! thanks for listening, no reply really needed...

[Maverick.]

Well I don't think she's doing it personally. I think its more out of respect. She feels it is disrespectful to put your fathers name on the card. He is no longer living, so she feels that she doesn't need to put his name. If this is bothering you, you should have a private talk with your mother. Be honest with her. Tell her how this bothers you. You still want to keep your fathers memory. I don't think she's ignoring him. She is just being formal about it. My parents do the same. We uploaded a family picture on facebook. She didn't tag my Uncle or my Grandfather who passed away last year. I don't think they were being rude or disrespectful, I just assume some people rather not mention, or talk about people who are no longer with us. By the way, I'm truly sorry for your loss.

[Reverie.]

I know you said no reply needed, but I'm going to go ahead and reply anyway.

Prehaps it's just hard for your mother. Losing someone you love is hard anyway, but the fact she's lost him must hurt her so much. As long as you believe your father is with you, and always will be, don't worry. If it does bother you a lot though, you might be able to talk to your mum about this, as she will understand you and care about this. I'm sorry for your loss, it's a terrible thing. I'm only a PM away if you need to talk to me. <3