Angel babies..

[Le bonheur*]

I've gone through two miscarriages. Both at around 8/9 weeks. I didn't know if they were boys/girls. But, I did have dreams about what they would have been. The first time I had a miscarriage... I dreamt it was a girl. I named her Emmalin Madisyn. And recently, I lost another angel. Who I dreamt was a boy. My boyfriend and I named him Kaiden David. Naming my angel babies are the only way I can cope... I also write to them. Has anyone else done this? What other ways do you cope with miscarriage? I have been beating myself up about this and I don't know how to go on. I know it'll never fully heal... I just need coping mechanisms. :/

[semiunbalanced]

I have never been through this and I can only imagine how hard it is but I can say that you shouldn't be kicking yourself in the head. The miscarriages are not your fault and there's no real way to prevent it. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You're in my thoughts. Stay strong.

[Reverie.]

Hey there,

I'm so sorry you went through this, but if this helps you to get through it, I see nothing wrong with what you are doing. I personally have never gone through a miscarriage but when people die sometimes people do try to communicate with them, not maybe for actual communication reasons, but rather to perhaps keep a bond there. If you wish to do that then I see nothing wrong at all. Try also talking to others about it, because you don't have to be alone and being around people can sometimes help take away some of the pain, and of course you wont have to be on your own then.

Take care,
Hollie.

[Le bonheur*]

Originally Posted by Ghost.

I personally have never gone through a miscarriage but when people die sometimes people do try to communicate with them, not maybe for actual communication reasons, but rather to perhaps keep a bond there. If you wish to do that then I see nothing wrong at all.

I have actually done this and it helps a ton. I still feel a bond with my first angel and I hope to create a stronger one with my second angel... Thanks for your help.

[Matty-UK]

That is heartbreaking i'm so sorry you've had to go through this.

Obviously i'm male so the only experience I have is when my mum had a still birth and that was devestating enough for me, so I can't begin to imagine your pain...

As hard as it is truth is the pain will never ever go you'll just learn to accept this and cope in time, it's good you still communicate and it's a very natural thing to do...

Just remember you will meet them one day, your goodbyes were temporary and they'll be waiting

Stay strong my heart is with you!

[Le bonheur*]

Originally Posted by Matty-UK

Just remember you will meet them one day, your goodbyes were temporary and they'll be waiting

Stay strong my heart is with you!

^^That's what keeps me sane. Knowing the goodbyes were only temporary.
Thank you