Triggering (Suicide): Losing him

[amandaann]

Just lost someone I was so close to cancer killed him, how am I gonna make it through my first day of school tomorrow help

[Audacious]

I am so sorry that you have to go through this! I hope that you know that at Teen Help, we are all here to support you ! I have lost someone to cancer...it's a terrible thing to have to deal with. YOu will make it through school, I know it. Even if you need to take some time off, that is okay.

When I was going through grief, I found it helpful to talk to those around me and remember that person. Going to the funeral was also helpful for me...it gave me a chance to say goodbye and have some closure. The person that you lost will ALWAYS be in your heart. You can always talk to him and remember him. He may even visit you in your dreams sometimes.

PM me if you ever need anything. I'm here for you <3

[amandaann]

Saturday is his funeral with a friend, not sure how I'll hold it together

[Audacious]

You don't have to hold anything together. You are going to a funeral, and that is a place where almost everybody cries and can't "hold it together." YOu will be amungst friends and other people who knew this person. You will get a chance to honour his memory and say goodbye for the last time. YOu do not have to do anything that you don't want to. Would it help you if you knew whether or not his body was cremated or if they are going to have a casket? Will it be opened? Those details may help prepare you. I remember my first funeral at age 8, and it was very traumatic for me because my parents did not prepare me to see a dead body at that age, but I was forced to anyways. If there is a casket, you may choose to bring something that you would like placed in the casket, and ask his family if it would be okay if you put it in. There are going to be lots of people that you can tlak to. Laugh, share memories, stories, cry, remember. I know it will be okay. Just remember that you don't have to be strong for anybody.

<3

Jenn

[CaseyAnn]

So I'm not exactly sure how these forums go, or if I'm putting this in the right place, but I lost a best friend in June. He meant so much to me, and we were just the best of friends. But one day we got into a fight, a really big fight. And I tried apologizing, but he wouldn't hear it. Later that week I learned he'd committed suicide . He left me a note, but none of it helped. I don't know how to greive. I cry a lot, but no body around me understands. I can't tell my parents cuz they'll think I'm making it up. I need a way to wrap my head around him being gone.. But I just.. Can't.

[*Learningtobreathe*]

hi casey,
maybe i can help, if you want to post a new thread, you go to the top of the list of threads and click on NEW THREAD, put a title on it and start telling ur story. good luck and i hope everything works out for you

[sassygurlone]

Hi Amanda,
Just like Jennifer said, you don't have to keep it together. It's okay to cry, it's okay to scream and shout and be sad and angry. I've lost a lot of people to cancer, even a really close friend, I know how difficult it is. Ask if you can take a few days off of school. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to PM me.