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September 16th 2011, 10:56 PM
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A good friend of mine committed suicide last night. I feel so bad because I couldn't help him and I blame myself.
 I just feel so horrible because he died and I tried to help but I couldn't...He texted me last night at 11:28 p.m. I was already asleep. When I read this text: "you may not get this until tomorrow. but i am so sick of life. all the rejection and neglection. i cnt take it anymore" I started crying. I just... I lost it. I lost the only friend who understood. I wrote the following on my hand exactly as it is: "Died 9/15/2011 by suicide RIP Stevie Woll" With a broken heart in the empty space. I also wrote "RIP Stevie Woll" on my thigh. I'm just so upset.... |
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September 17th 2011, 11:16 PM
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I'm so sorry....  #OCKest2006 pride<3 #A7XFamForever  R.I.P. James Owen Sullivan, the Reverend Tholomew Plague We love and miss you, foREVer.<3 |
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September 17th 2011, 11:37 PM
Oh, Roy, how awful, i'm so sorry! If you need to talk, please feel free to let me know.
You're not responsible, you know. He made a decision, and acted on it before you could try to convince him otherwise. I'm sorry you weren't able to try, but your unavailability doesn't mean you're at all responsible. Take care of yourself, be extra nice to yourself, and make sure you get extra TLC and support now. PM me with the link of the post you'd like me to respond to.
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September 18th 2011, 02:17 AM
I cannot stress enough that THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
If a person wants to commit suicide, their life is in their own hands. Yes,they can be helped, but it is ultimately their responsibility. Maybe participating in funeral services or doing something special to remember your friend will help you. Remember: everybody grieves differently and at different rates. It may help you to visit this website:http://www.centerforloss.com/who-are...love-has-died/ read this article, it may be helpful for you. Another article by that same guy is http://www.griefsupport.cc/wolfelt_self.htm this guy is named alan wolfelt, and he's an amazing man. My old grief therapy group used a lot of material from him...he's an amazing guy. He has books, too. Healing Your Grieving Heart for TEENS was an amazing book that helped me. He also has books called "Understanding your Suicide Grief". That book comes in a book and a journal (the journal prompts you to write and stuff). I am confident that you will be okay. Always remember that if you start feeling those thoughts of suicide, you need to tell somebody who will listen. PM me anytime, I'm a resource dictionary 
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September 19th 2011, 05:08 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It's tough when somebody close to us passes away and can often leave us feeling upset and empty. Feel free to PM me anytime if you need a talk.
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September 19th 2011, 05:15 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. xx
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September 20th 2011, 09:51 AM
It isn't your fault. I would take that message as a thank you of sorts... that you tried to help. He said he was sick of life, he said nothing about you. He revealed himself to you at his most personal moment. Even if that doesn't change his suicide.. it does show how truly grateful he was to you, and just how much you meant to him, as is obvious of how much he meant to you.
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