Death of faimly member

[Complete Love.]

My really close relative passed away.. I don't even want to say Her name because it hurt me so bad. She Died of cancer...My mind tries to block out that she was even alive.I don't know how to cope with this... Any advice.

[Soliloquy]

Hey Amy,

Having a family member die is an extremely difficult thing. It's understandable why you might be finding it hard to talk or think about. I don't want you to think that you're doing something absolutely terrible or horrific by trying to block it out of your mind, because sometimes when an event like this is so fresh in our heads, it's too soon or it hurts too much to dwell on. Sometimes it feels better to deny the existence of something than to admit what really happened, when it makes us feel so badly. What you're experiencing is a very normal reaction, especially considering that she was so close to you. Your mind is probably trying to deal with this kind of pain in the only way it knows how to right now. In fact, the first stage of grief is 'Denial of the situation.'

Remember everyone deals with grief differently. You may find that you need to give yourself some time before you're ready to talk about it or remember your relative in a positive light. I'm not sure when she passed, but if it was fairly recently, you might need some time to process this news. Death is shocking, whether it's expected or unexpected. If you think it'd make you feel better, surround yourself with supportive family members who might also be grieving. Sometimes it helps to be able to share grief with others, but some people may also prefer to grief alone at first. However you choose to approach it, that's okay.

When you're ready, try to remember all the happy times you had with your relative. Think about her when she was alive and well, laughing and energetic. Don't be afraid to talk about the death and how it made you feel. Be especially kind to and patient with yourself. Make sure you continue to pay heed to your own health, mental and physical. And, if you'd really like, you could make something in memory of her, such as a memory box where you put items of hers or a scrapbook with pictures. You could even raise money for the type of cancer she suffered from, to help find a cure in the future so others don't have to endure the same kind of heartache.

I know this must feel unbearable to you. I'm deeply sorry for your loss. If you need anything, I'm here.

[Iridescence]

I know how hard this is, Amy. You might of heard this sooo many times before, but, she's in a better place now where she doesn't have to feel any pain. It might be heart breaking to you, but think about how she isn't sick anymore.
Time will go by, and you'll still be upset, but just remember she will always been in your heart.
I hope you'll feel better. <3

[klh94]

Hi Amy, that is a hard thing for anyone to go through. I lost my aunt recently and I know how tough it is. One of the things that really helped me get through it was turning to other family, friends and my pastor for guidance and support. I'm still healing but having a support system helps a great deal. If you ever need someone to talk to just give me a holler and I'd be glad to help in any way that I can. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Complete Love.]

Hey klh94 thanks for the support I really needed it. I sent you a PM. Instead of replying on here.

[Complete Love.]

Thanks for the encouragement and support everyone