How to deal with this?

[JKmadu619]

I never really knew my great uncle who died today, but others in my family did. My great grandmother is sobbing over the phone saying things like "I wish it were me! I've lived ten years too long!" and "After my daughter died when she was four, I thought God promised me I wouldn't lose another child!".

It's the saddest thing I've ever seen. She's just stricken with grief.

My mom is sad because her uncle died, and her grandmothe (Who she's close to) is feeling so hopeless.

I don't know how to soothe this. Should I just stay back, or is there something I should do to make things easier? I've helped my brother with school and cleaned up the house this morning (Out of concidence.) so at least nothing like that needs to be done, but I just need some advice on how to deal with this.

I thinks that if I were grieving too it might somehow help, but I never really knew the guy, I only met him twice where he briefly shook my hand. I just feel guilty that I'm not grieving while everyone else is I guess. Any help is apreciated.

- Justin

[Ally_Georgiiie]

Well I think that you should just try to make things easy for your mother because after all losing any family member is hard to be nice to her, help her run errands. Just do what you can for her it will all work out.
Hope I've been of some help. Good luck.

[Iris. ♥]

Hey there,
I felt the same way when my great-uncle died. I felt like I should cry or something. But, I finally realized that I had no reason to feel guilty for not grieving over a man I never knew. Just be there for your family as much as you can. Be available if they need to talk. Let them tell stories if they want to, or just sit there in silence if they need a companion. Try to make things easier for your mom by doing a few extra chores around the house. Even if you don't identify with what they're feeling, they'll appreciate the extra effort and the love that you're showing them.
Take care,
Sammi.

[Chris.]

I agree with some of the other comments. I think just helping out around the house and just taking a weight off your mother will help alot. Losing someone is hard. We cry when a baby is born, and we cry when we lose that person later in life.

Thankfully, you have someone watching over you.

Best wishes,
Chris