Not a Merry Christmas...

[escape_thereal_world]

Someone I knew for several years in Middle and High School passed away this morning at 5:01am. He had a bad heart and had a transplant in High School. I guess last month he wasn't taking his meds and collapsed. He was in a coma for a day then woke up. Doctor told him he would die without the meds. He got better.

This morning his family found that he passed away last night...

My sister and friends were a lot closer to him than myself, but I did know him. I have memories with him. And I had to tell my sister...on Christmas...



RIP Colin...have a great Christmas in Heaven!

[Raining Glitter]

I'm sorry for your loss. What a tragedy.

Losing someone during the winter holidays is always hard. A few years ago I lost my grandpa on the last day of winter break. We found out he had cancer, let alone was in the last stages of cancer, on the first day if winter break. :/ It was a really hard time, but you'll get through it.

Don't think of what you lost with his passing, but what you gained with the days he lived. He had a special influence on the world. All those memories, honor and cherish them. Celebrate them when you get together with others to mourn. When you lose someone, you never truly lose them. I'm not sure what your religion is but I believe that when someone dies they are either sent to a better place or reincarnated again, so they are truly always there watching down on us. When strange random lucky events happen, take it as a little note from your friend that he's looking down on you, checking up on you.

I'm sorry for your loss. These times get hard. Him, his family, and you will be in my prayers. I hope the rest of your day brightens up You deserve to be happy.

[Audacious]

Wow, I'm so sorry for your loss. As Stacie said, losing somebody during the holidays is always tough. I remember when one of my parents died a few weeks before Christmas - that was undescribable.

I want to offer the idea that you are both allowed to grieve and have a good time. You can still celebrate and please don't feel like you have to put everything on hold. I know you probably want to just give up...but if you had plans for supper, still have supper. But if you all just feel like you can't do it this year, that's okay too. It is okay to grieve and okay to feel sad and OKAY to not want to do anything right now. Evaluate what you're feeling and go with that. Whatever you choose to do right now is okay!

I'd like to offer you this poem. It really helps me on Christmas.

My First Christmas In Heaven

I see the countless
Christmas trees
around the world below
With tiny lights, like Heaven's stars,
reflecting on the snow
The sight is so spectacular,
please wipe away the tear
For I am spending Christmas with
Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs
that people hold so dear
But the sounds of music can't compare
with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you,
the joy their voices bring,
For it is beyond description,
to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me,
I see the pain inside your heart.
But I am not so far away,
We really aren't apart.
So be happy for me, dear ones,
You know I hold you dear.
And be glad I'm spending Christmas
with Jesus Christ this year.
I sent you each a special gift,
from my heavenly home above.
I sent you each a memory
of my undying love.
After all, love is a gift more precious
than pure gold.
was always most important
the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other,
my Father said to do.
I can't count the blessing or love
has for each of you.
So have a Merry Christmas and
Wipe away that tear
Remember, I am spending Christmas with
Jesus Christ this year
-Author Unknown


I would encourage you to explore ways that you can be supportive to your friends and sister, and to also help yourself. Maybe journalling would be helpful, or even using your TH blog to vent about your feelings. And of course there's other places on the forums and the chat room where you can talk and get your feelings on the table.



Grieving is a lengthy process, and each person grieves differently. Good luck, and PM me anytime!

[escape_thereal_world]

Thank you both

My sister was pretty upset, but she says she is doing alright.
I cried after this post, and I felt better. Not great, but better.

I did realize he got to go on a special day and his first day he was able to spend Christmas in Heaven. How much more special can it get than that? So, I'm glad he went on Christmas, at least.

I do fee terrible for his family and really close friends. I'll work through my grief.
Again, thank you both. I did have a good day, by the way. And tonight, we're honoring Colin with a candle

[Audacious]

I'm so glad that you were able to have a good day. Candles are a great way to remember people who have past. That's the reason we light red candles on Christmas. Red was the person I lost's favourite colour.

[Chris.]

Awh, thats sad. I'm sorry to hear about that. You may have lost a friend, but you guys gained an angel.

Prayers are sent your way, my friend.


Best wishes,
Chris

[Iris. ♥]

Awh, Kelly. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Lighting a candle sounds like a beautiful tribute for Colin. I'll be praying for you, your sisters, and his family.