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Death and Grieving Coping with loss is difficult at any age, but you are not alone during this difficult time. Reach out to other users in this forum.

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Unhappy Grieving for someone i dont know - January 21st 2012, 12:20 AM

Two weeks ago, Cupcake ( my best friend) saw her friend get hit by a train. She told me about it, but i knew because i saw it happen in a dream. I dont know the person who died but i cried for hours none stop. I felt like i lost someone that ive known for years and loved. Yet i dont know the person

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Re: Grieving for someone i dont know - January 21st 2012, 01:22 AM

Just the thought that some1 has passed on in such a way can be hard to hear. No matter if you knew them personally or not, just realizing that a life was cut short in such a horrific way is sad. So I can totally understand how you feel.
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Re: Grieving for someone i dont know - January 21st 2012, 03:24 AM

Sometimes its normal to do that. I think that you were on the verge of eventually breaking down - and this little trigger incident just pushed you over board. I think the main thing that was needed is for you to let out all those tears - and let out your emotions.

The grieving will eventually pass - but I'll keep you and your friends in my thoughts.

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Re: Grieving for someone i dont know - January 21st 2012, 10:08 AM

Someone's death can be really sad and horrifying, even if you didn't know them. It can be absolutely terrible to learn that someone is no more in this world. So I think the grieving will pass, as Chris mentioned above. Stay strong. xx
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Re: Grieving for someone i dont know - January 22nd 2012, 06:55 PM

I totally get how you feel, since I'm on the verge of tears right now for someone else. It's okay to grieve for someone, even if you don't know them, since, like what was said before, hearing the news that someone has passed away can be so sad. I agree that it will probably pass, but it's still okay to keep the person in your heart. It could also be partly because Cupcake is one of your best friends so you're feeling what she's going through as well. Either way, stay strong.
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Re: Grieving for someone i dont know - January 23rd 2012, 04:20 AM

Wow, you sound like a very empathetic person! That's a great quality if you aren't becoming overwhelmed constantly by your empathy.

You are experiencing a normal reaction for somebody who has heard of such an experience. I feel upset myself when I hear of kids dying or going through something really tough.

Have you tried talking to cupcake about how you're feeling? That might be a way for both of you to share and process your feelings. You may also want to consider talking to a trusted adult like a teacher or parent.

Your feelings are normal Embrace them and experience them, and they should eventually go away.

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