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Racism. Long read, a lot of opinions. - March 2nd 2013, 06:25 AM

Today I was online and one of my "friends" that just happens to be black shared an article from a "black magazine". A white woman had wrote in asking an opinion from the male readers. She was in a relationship with a black man and he had told her the reasons he liked white women was because the women in his race were loud, disrespectful, had too much baggage, etc. A male reader replied with something like "Back in the day black men would go after white women because they were easier than black women. Now they are afraid that the black women will become more successful than them and isn't as easily controlled as a white girl is". My "friend" and her friends were going crazy over this guys response agreeing with him and what not.

One of her friends posted a link to the original posters profile and there was nothing but posts hating on white women and sometimes white men there. Every single post was literally about hating on this race, then on top of that all the comments were as well.

I'm thoroughly disgusted. If a group of white people were doing this they would be considered racist, even if they said just one thing. This got me thinking. I feel BET is racist too. If there was a White Entertainment Channel there would be hell. I've watched BET, they have that one token white person that's mentally disabled.

If we have things like this going on then there will never be an end to racism. A lot of people believe that white people can't be subject to racism but they are sadly mistaken. Racism is intolerance of ANY race. The reason people have racist thoughts/feelings towards another group is to make themselves feel better. My own personal feelings are that I don't care what race you are, if you treat me with respect and dignity then I'll return it.

No one owes you anything, no matter what race you are. The feeling of entitlement needs to stop. Treat each other with dignity and respect, work hard, keep clean, go to school, be respectable. Those are the keys to being successful and it's a good path.

Just a little note: I'm not white. I'm a mix of races including Indian, Asian, Welsh, etc.

There's good and bad in every race. The double standard needs to end.
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Re: Racism. Long read, a lot of opinions. - March 2nd 2013, 09:13 PM

I completely agree with you. I think that anyone who actually makes a big deal about race in the first place is probably at some level racist. The only people who aren't really racist are the ones who just don't care much about race, and the best way to deal with racism is to get rid of stuff like BET, to ignore both the written-in comments from the white woman and the black man, and to not bring up race as if it's an issue that needs to be dealt with.

Your friends didn't react at all the way they should've reacted if their aims were to put down racism, nor did that guy who wrote in to answer the racist lady's comments. By responding with racism, it only proves that everyone who is responding is racist themselves (and, therefore, means that they have no right to think that their opinions are any better or more respectable than the person who they're trying to put down). Instead, the lady's write-in should have been ignored completely or taken down, and the people talking about how shameful it was should've pointed out how closed minded the author of the post was, instead of generalizing to the race she was a part of. I doubt people like Hillary Clinton are "easy to control."
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Re: Racism. Long read, a lot of opinions. - March 2nd 2013, 11:02 PM

Couldn't agree more. I think the likes of BET need to be gotten rid of, as they encourage this feeling of entitlement certain races have. Whether black people are discriminated against or not, the key thing here is that some of them are convinced all white people are racist. They automatically consider themselves separate from other races, and think it's acceptable to have their own entertainment channels, dating websites (BlackPeopleMeet.com, as an example) and magazines, and negatively view white people based on generalisations and stereotypes.

Now, I will say that most black people aren't like that, and don't generalise white people or feel the need to alienate themselves from the other races, as they realise it does nothing but keep racism going, and fair play to them. Everything I said in the paragraph above can apply to some members of all races. My city has a number of large ethnic minorities, including Africans, Asians and Eastern Europeans, and a lot of them are very clannish and don't even try to integrate with the general population, and then claim they're being discriminated against when no-one bothers with them. It's no different from this case.

The bottom line here is that everyone needs to realise that race doesn't matter, and only then will racism stop. However, I seriously doubt that will be possible in the foreseeable future.
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Re: Racism. Long read, a lot of opinions. - March 3rd 2013, 12:33 AM

I agree. I'm beginning to grow a thicker skin to this bullshit. "Let them be racist", I say. Ultimately, what fucking difference does it make? It's not going to deprive me of anything, or prevent me from doing anything. Up until now, it has offended me, a lot sometimes, which has distracted me from my work and other more meaningful things.

Them being racist, is not going to stop me from anything. It changes nothing. Ultimately, they're at a bigger loss, and if people like me and them clash some day, I'll walk all over them, because I'll be more prepared, have more education, more money, more everything, because I focus on stuff that matters, and consistently train myself on how do deal with assholes from whatever backgrounds. It includes verbal exchange/debates (although you can't debate with idiots), physical exchange when necessary (martial arts), and other sorts of "exchanges" which I won't go into. Whatever is necessary.

You'd probably do yourself a favour if you wouldn't get so worked up about it. People will never be "perfect" and there will always be hypocrisy. Some black people calling white people "racist" and then cracking white jokes on BET. Some working class people moaning about the lavish lifestyle of the "rich", then behaving no different when some of them occasionally win the lottery. In my opinion, these people haven't even figured themselves out, which suggests they either lack intelligence or never grew up. Or both.

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Then politics doesn't care about you either. Truth. You've got to make your voice heard, if you want to be listened to. But that's too logical for some people, so let me go a step further. Not making your voice heard, leaves other people free to hijack it by speaking on your behalf, even if they don't actually give a shit about you. That's politics. So, make your voice heard. That's not a quote from anywhere. That's just me.

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Re: Racism. Long read, a lot of opinions. - March 3rd 2013, 01:37 AM

I'm just kind of wondering why they have me as a friend if they are so intolerant of others races... They call the women in their race queens and the men kings. Does that mean I can call myself a goddess? I had an ex that referred to me as one... o.o It's just so irritating. I have to deal with just about every race on a day to day basis at work and treat everyone the same. Racism is just so idiotic in my mind. I just wish there was a way to bridge the gap that's been here since the beginning.

On a side note, I REALLY want BET taken down. It disgusts me to see how they usually have that one blonde white girl that has probably a second grade education. I hate blonde jokes too though...
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Re: Racism. Long read, a lot of opinions. - March 3rd 2013, 06:14 PM

Oh I know I hate the double standard. My campus has aboriginal groups, LGBT groups, women's groups, Muslim groups, Chinese Christian groups, a Christian group, a black group, and so on... But I bet if I asked to start a group that promoted the caucasian culture I'd be told I am an incredible racist, which isn't the case. It's like people only associate white people with being racists or something and that all other groups are free of that... Which isn't true. It happens everywhere as you can see...

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