TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives

You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
gloves123 Offline
Member
Junior TeenHelper
****
 
gloves123's Avatar
 
Name: Rashel
Age: 21
Gender: Female

Posts: 349
Blog Entries: 4
Join Date: December 21st 2010

Arrow back to bullying? - March 27th 2013, 07:32 PM

OK, well I'm not sure if this would fit into the bullying forum, but it seemed to fit best, feel free to move it if it should be somewhere else.
Anyways, in my gym class, we got a new student.
She's the girl that bullied me for the last two years.
She got kicked out of her old class and out of a few other ones, as well.
Anyways, for the first few days she was there, she didn't talk and had no friends, which I admit-ably was happy about because she didn't have any minions in the class, so she had no power.
But now she's talking to people and has made friends with the more 'snippy' girls.
I really thought I didn't care that she was there when she didn't talk, but now that she does I hear her snickering to her new group of classroom minions and then out of the corner of my eye, I'll see them turn to me and start snickering again.
I really don't want to let it bother me like it used to, because I have a group of friends now, too, but it still does even after all these years.
I also don't want to tell the teacher what I think is going on because I might be wrong.
What do I do?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Adam the Fish Offline
The Skittlemeister.
I can't get enough
*********
 
Adam the Fish's Avatar
 
Name: Adam
Age: 20
Gender: Male
Location: Bristol

Posts: 2,343
Blog Entries: 6
Join Date: August 24th 2012

Re: back to bullying? - March 27th 2013, 08:00 PM

Hey Rashel,

I'm sorry you're having a hard time of it, and that she's been transferred back to your group.

I just wonder why you feel that telling the teacher is wrong?
Obviously, going up to a teacher and saying "she is going to bully me again," will not go down well, because unfounded claims are not generally looked upon well by teachers, in my experience.

What I would recommend is that you do go and say to the teacher that you have been bullied by this girl in the past, and there's a possibility that it could happen again (though be prepared for something patronising from the teacher at this point!), could he or she please just keep an extra eye on their interactions with you.
That way, if anything does happen, it should be very easy for you to go the teacher and say, "this happened, as it has done in the past, do something about it please".

Best of luck .


Skittlify me up...
Adam the Fish | 26/08/12 | 08/10/12 | 02/12/12 | 09/02/13 | 01/06/13 | 30/08/13 | 25/11/13
...spreading happiness and joy around the Internet!
...well, I try, anyway. .......................
private message.visitor message.profile.email
"May we always remember that we are the rainbow."
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Everglow. Offline
Did you miss me?
Outside, huh?
**********
 
Everglow.'s Avatar
 
Name: Hollie
Age: 24
Gender: Female
Location: London

Posts: 4,770
Blog Entries: 718
Join Date: January 19th 2011

Re: back to bullying? - March 27th 2013, 08:04 PM

Hey there,

I've had similar experienced myself and I know that it can be scary and hurtful to think that people are teasing you again. I think you need to give this kid the benefit of the doubt for a while. If you see her laughing with her friends and think that she might be laughing at you, maybe go and sit with your new friendship group and distract yourself by talking to them or laughing with them. One of the main thing bullies feed off of is a reaction, so showing her that you're not bothered (even if you are) may be a good idea.

You could also approach her and ask. That may seem scary but it could be a misunderstanding, in which case talking about it might lead you both to finding middle ground and accepting the past as the past and moving on. Even if you're not friends with her after it, at least you can be safe in the knowledge that she's moved on as well and make your way with moving on too. If it turns out she is bullying you, then you can take some action such as telling a teacher, as you'll then know for sure and so the teacher can keep an eye on things to make sure nothing happens there.

Keep your chin up though. Bullies are only a powerful as you make them and you're better than that, so stay strong and know that she's weak for bullying people, whereas you are strong for taking it and getting this far.

Take care,
Hollie.


❤ Nana ❤
1953-2016

As far as we can discern,
the sole purpose of human existence
is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
- Carl Jung

   
1 user(s) liked this post or found it helpful.
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
JustACityBoy Offline
Telemachus
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
JustACityBoy's Avatar
 
Name: Carl
Age: 21
Gender: Male
Location: New York

Posts: 352
Blog Entries: 113
Join Date: January 30th 2012

Re: back to bullying? - March 28th 2013, 05:23 AM

What a bitch.. isn't she tired of it already?
If there is no direct confrontation I'd just wait it out.... what more can you talk about a person that you don't even know. She'll stop eventually.

----------------------- worst case scenario
If pride is important to you or it's extremely bothering, if she's also the physical type instead of just snickering around then I think you should learn some combat.
And that's another story. The next time she pushes you, push her back, but never be the first to land an explosion.


What lies ahead is unknown. However, in some times, I've sighted several smooth pavements. I myself am the mender of roads, and it is with these we work on.
   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
arosa Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
arosa's Avatar
 
Name: samantha
Age: 26
Gender: Female
Location: Philadelphia, United States

Posts: 23
Join Date: March 28th 2013

Re: back to bullying? - March 29th 2013, 12:49 AM

i have had experiences being the bully, and also being bullied.

the best advice that i could possibly give is really just to make friends, and socialize more. i myself am one of the more outgoing people in my classes, and it's most definitely benefited me for the most part.

if you're a likeable person, you'll always have people standing up for you.

if all else fails, i would skip speaking to your teacher about it because it's not really their job to deal with your personal issues ( although they are your teacher ... ) i would actually talk to a guidance counselor through your school, because they'll be much more willing to listen, and less occupied with the other students within your class.

the teacher can overlook what's going on, but ultimately you'll need hard evidence or a witness to actually support the fact that you're being bullied.

bullies often times don't realize that they're being hurtful, and this is why they continue to act out on other people.

also because they've got personal problems at home, but i believe that factor is more or less exaggerated in most circumstances.

hollie recommended that you approach the group of girls and ask them what it is they're laughing about. i strongly recommend this, because it shows that you're confident, and also that you're not hesitant to seek help of some kind of worse comes to worse. if the girls think that there's a possibility they may get in some sort of trouble, i think they'll probably back down. however, if you show them that you're a friendly person and you're not shy, this will also change their perception of you - they'll probably like you more.
   
  (#6 (permalink)) Old
zTaylaHz Offline
You're Beautiful, Children (:
Average Joe
***
 
zTaylaHz's Avatar
 
Name: Taylor
Age: 23
Gender: Female

Posts: 125
Join Date: April 24th 2012

Re: back to bullying? - March 29th 2013, 07:26 PM

Just ignore them. you said it's in gym right? well, next time they snicker just pretend the ball is their face and hit it as hard as you can (: or make a really good play so they have no room to make fun of you (:


You Are Loved
   
  (#7 (permalink)) Old
Beating the odds ~
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
Broken Constellation's Avatar
 
Name: Mads
Age: 21
Gender: Female
Location: North by northwest

Posts: 368
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: January 3rd 2013

Re: back to bullying? - March 31st 2013, 10:42 PM

I think you should tell your gym teacher that the girl has been mean/bullied you in the past, and just ask if they could keep an eye out. You might not like the idea, but it's always good to have the teacher on your side. And, incase if anything bad does happen, the teacher will know that she has been mean in the past.
If you feel that this is too personal of a thing to tell a teacher, talk to your guidance counselor about it. I'm sure they'll come up with something you can do, and perhaps tell the gym teacher to keep an eye on your bully, leaving you anonymus.
I hope this helps.


"Don't tell me you're not beautiful. You're the kind of beautiful the blind would see if we could figure out some way to give them three seconds of sight." -- Shane Koyczan
   
  (#8 (permalink)) Old
arosa Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
arosa's Avatar
 
Name: samantha
Age: 26
Gender: Female
Location: Philadelphia, United States

Posts: 23
Join Date: March 28th 2013

Re: back to bullying? - April 10th 2013, 08:37 AM

if i were you i'd consider physically throwing the ball at their face.
i personally have a low tolerance for the sorts of people you just described

really bad advice but it will make you feel better ( you'll be the school bad ass )
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
back, bullying

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2018, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.