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To fight or not to fight? - October 14th 2013, 09:08 PM

Hey guys. So there I was on my neighborhood basketball hoop. There were these 2 kids playing there. For some reason, they acted like they owned the hoop which was weird because they did not help pay for it whatsoever. He had an intimidating attitude as if he was the boss. In other words, an egotistical, ignorant child who doesn't understand what respect is. Me and my friends were playing a game with him and his friend. There was a lot of verbal abuse from him and I just told him to chill. So yeah, no fight, but I was on the verge since he was calling my friends names. My main question is when should I ever have to fight someone. I hate having a verbal fight because it is too tiring lol. I would rather just knock someone out. A lot of times I regret not fighting someone because of the satisfaction out of making a douche bag look like some monster that just came out of the sewer. I've gotten in like what? 2 or 3 fights in my life. Obviously I don't really want to ever have to get in a fight, but it would make me feel so much better. What would be the best thing to do to handle a situation involving a jackass? This was mainly to vent my anger out. All thoughts welcomed.
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Re: To fight or not to fight? - October 14th 2013, 09:52 PM

I personally wouldn't get into a fight. It's not worth it. If they do anything physical to you, you can always tell local authority. Otherwise just go to another park if you can or find another way to get around the fighting. I wouldn't even say it's the last resort, it shouldn't be an option. There will be some who say they disagree, that it's better to fight back, even in my neighborhood I bet they'd fight (maybe one reason why there's so many fights in my neighborhood). I'm not saying to dismiss what he said, verbal abuse is abuse no matter what, but you can still choose to not retaliate. It does take courage.
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Re: To fight or not to fight? - October 14th 2013, 11:52 PM

I don't think there is ever a time when fighting is the answer. It might be frustrating having to put up with someone who isn't being nice to you or your friend but it's better to be the bigger person and walk away from the situation or just ignore them rather than giving them the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you which is probably why they do things like that anyway. If you just leave it and don't give them what they most likely want which is you to respond then they'll probably get bored of doing it and stop bothering.
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Re: To fight or not to fight? - October 15th 2013, 01:52 AM

Your question isn't very specific.

It all Depends upon Whom you are fighting.

I have encountered many Aggressive/verbally abusing 12-13 year olds in my life; which are all smaller, Weaker and younger than myself; i could of easily pretty much buried them 666 Feet under

But, I did not. IT wasn't because they are weaker opponents, it was simply because they were Not attacking me, with every fight, I let the opposing person take the first attacking attempt.


1.He is a much older/tougher person, in this case, it'd be wise to back away, but if you can not back away for whatever reason; you'd have to take the first punch. Since the element of surprise would be the only advantage you could possibly have.

(Unless the bigger opponent isn't very intimidating and/or doesn't seem annoyed, angry, etc)

Thats pretty much my rulebook!

Ofcourse, if i was to see a person Of ANY age, beating and hurting someone else, excessively and unnecessarily, i would ofcourse Step-in.

It also depends if i've had a bad day and my patience is as short, as the attackers life-span.

But meh! I say

'To fight only in the right circumstances and fairness'
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Re: To fight or not to fight? - October 15th 2013, 04:31 PM

You think it'l make you feel good about yourself. Then you don't feel good about yourself afterwards. I know pretty well.

There aren't many people who really would feel good about themselves after a fight, whether they'd win or loose it. The average person doesn't enjoy harming others. Some do, but they have mental problems. It doesn't look like you're one of those people.

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Then politics doesn't care about you either. Truth. You've got to make your voice heard, if you want to be listened to. But that's too logical for some people, so let me go a step further. Not making your voice heard, leaves other people free to hijack it by speaking on your behalf, even if they don't actually give a shit about you. That's politics. So, make your voice heard. That's not a quote from anywhere. That's just me.

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