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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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My ex - September 4th 2014, 04:10 PM

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Well my ex got back in touch with me half a year ago, things were going fine between us until he started getting self centred about my bipolar disorder, said I was ignoring him on purpose and calling me a bitch. He tried to say I was attention seeking and faking my bipolar when I'm not. I didn't ask for this illness. I would do anything to get rid of it but I know it will never happen.
So every time I go quiet ( which I don't realise I am doing ) he accuses me of ignoring him and accuses me of being the bully. I have swings but I go really quiet when I do but he just doesn't seem to understand.
I don't know whether to walk away from being friends with the way he is treating me.
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Re: My ex - September 4th 2014, 06:09 PM

Tell him how you feel; if he takes that into consideration and comes to an understanding with you that's good, but if he just ignores your explanation and keeps calling you stuff then walk away from your friendship.


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Re: My ex - September 4th 2014, 06:20 PM

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Tell him how you feel; if he takes that into consideration and comes to an understanding with you that's good, but if he just ignores your explanation and keeps calling you stuff then walk away from your friendship.
I have already tried to talk to him but he thinks its my fault that I have got it, I really do need to walk away from the friendship, don't even know why he came back in the first place and pretended he had changed.
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Re: My ex - September 4th 2014, 06:34 PM

You're right, you didn't choose to have this illness and there are parts of it that you just aren't in control of. In my opinion, you shouldn't have to explain that you didn't choose this and that you aren't actually ignoring him. You can always explain it one final time and explain it in a stern manner; let him know that if he continues to treat you this way you will back out of the friendship. Whether or not you want try and talk to him about this one more time is up to you, but do what is right for you. If you know that this friendship isn't healthy for you, then maybe you should cease contact.

He is trying to guilt trip you for things you do not have control over and that is unfair. Remember that you are not the bully in this situation. Although he thinks you are faking your illness, you know the truth and no-one can take that away from you.

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Re: My ex - September 4th 2014, 07:41 PM

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You're right, you didn't choose to have this illness and there are parts of it that you just aren't in control of. In my opinion, you shouldn't have to explain that you didn't choose this and that you aren't actually ignoring him. You can always explain it one final time and explain it in a stern manner; let him know that if he continues to treat you this way you will back out of the friendship. Whether or not you want try and talk to him about this one more time is up to you, but do what is right for you. If you know that this friendship isn't healthy for you, then maybe you should cease contact.

He is trying to guilt trip you for things you do not have control over and that is unfair. Remember that you are not the bully in this situation. Although he thinks you are faking your illness, you know the truth and no-one can take that away from you.

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I will try talking to him one more time
When we were together he was the type of person who got jealous over anything, I would get attached to a character in a tv series and he would get really jealous.
I think he starting to get jealous again, he already knows I never want to get back with him again.
He knows I would love to stay as friends but its not going to happen if he keeps bullying me because he thinks I'm faking everything.
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