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Threatened over Phone, Thinking of Contacting Police - May 13th 2016, 05:49 PM

Hey guys, lets see if this is helpful?
So at my high school I had a good friend...let's call her Bella to protect the innocent. We texted and were OK, she said she wanted to hang out so I tried to plan something. The last time I hung out with anyone outside of school was when i was about 12...and I'm 17 now. So suddenly she goes silent. after that I text every so often "Hey" to her number...nothing special.

Then on my brothers birthday, which is in February I receive a text from a number I don't recognize telling me to stop contact with her and another friend of mine (lets call her Martha). After asking around I figure out it's from Bella's boyfriend (lets call him Mike). So after a series of text, which involved a LOT of threats on my life and moments from me I'm not proud of, I conceded and left Bella alone.

Now we reach this week, I was walking to the bus and saw Bella, she said Hi and I needed to confirm if what she thought those months back were true. And she said they were not and all of them were blowing it WAY out of proportion, she also said I should tell Martha to not tell Mike that she saw me with her. Apparently Martha was Mike's eyes at my school. While I left for the bus I notice I received a call from a number I did not recognize and sure enough it was Mike, saying I promised not to talk to Bella, I gave in and said I wouldn't again unless contacted by her first (I offered her my number...she said some of our other friends have it).

The kicking point was yesterday, I wanted to get a book for another friend of mine (Lets call her Pam) because it was her birthday. I go to my favorite bookstore and apparently, I didn't know this, Bella worked there. I asked her if they had the book, she looked on the computer, didn't find it, I left, A typical costumer service encounter. Then Mike called again saying I was a lowly creep and if I ever go into that bookstore again he will beat me up.

I am sick of being threatened and I am sick of being lied to...I am seriously considering contacting the police about Mike, please help if you have any advice ASAP before I do something I regret
   
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Re: Threatened over Phone, Thinking of Contacting Police - May 13th 2016, 08:33 PM

So, disclaimer, I am not a lawyer, but I have had experience with dealing with legal stuff. First thing? Document, document, document!!! Save all of these interactions, especially ones that are endangering you. Your safety is important!!! The more stuff you have to back up your claims, the easier and more straightforward it will (hopefully) be. If they are threatening you, I would definitely suggest getting some outside help. Is there someone you can talk to at school that could help you maneuver all of this?? I'm not sure if this exists at your school, but I am in college and we have a Student Conduct team that helps students with scenarios like this. You are always welcome to go to the police first, but sometimes this can be a little intimidating and frustrating process to deal with without support. Does that make sense? I think it is totally valid to want to contact the police, and for your own safety, I agree you need to contact someone about it. Maybe you could try and talk to a teacher or guidance counselor to see what resources exist for you? Please message me with any more questions, I would be happy to help. Hang in there <3




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Re: Threatened over Phone, Thinking of Contacting Police - May 19th 2016, 09:47 AM

My advice is all the above (so I won't repeat it), and a bit extra:

Carry something sharp, that ideally is also legal. Or maybe something else too. Pepper spray perhaps? Walk around prepared. Mentally prepared too. Prepared to do whatever is necessary to protect yourself. From what you've described, I doubt he is bluffing. If it ever comes to the worst, and he does "confront" you before police manage to intervene, and it gets violent... don't fight him on his terms. Don't give him a "fair fight". None of this "fists only" nonsense. Instead, do whatever is necessary to protect yourself. This isn't a pissing contest, or a "battle of the males" or some other "animal planet" bullshit. You're dealing with an unpredictable nutcase.

A "lowly creep"? Is that what he called you? I'm surprised. From everything you have described, he is one himself.

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Re: Threatened over Phone, Thinking of Contacting Police - May 20th 2016, 01:51 AM

I agree with the above poster. Carry a legal form of defense. Keys in between fingers work great too. Consider investing in self defense classes. Ideally something like Krav Maga or Systema that are designed to be brutal and effective.
Also, I would lodge a complaint with the cops ASAP. If you have those texts or anything, show the cops and get a complaint lodged.
   
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