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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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Unhappy Negative Aftermath of Bullying.. - October 11th 2016, 08:55 PM

This thread has been labeled as triggering, particularly on the subject of peer pressure or bullying, by the original poster or by a Moderator. The contents of this thread might therefore not be suitable for certain sensitive users. Please take this into consideration before continuing to read.

Before I get into it, it didn't let me add more than one trigger warning but I just want to add mental health wise, this post may be triggering to some. (anxiety, suicidal tendency etc)

I was with a guy for 9 months in a controlling relationship. Long story short.. after we broke up he bullied and borderline stalked me for 7 months. My school knew about it 3 months in and he got away with it.

Mentally, I am torn. I have panic attacks all the time regarding him. I'm always paranoid he is going to get me again. I don't know what to do. I've had issues with self harm for years but now it's worse due to what he has done. I've even put myself in hospital trying to commit suicide because I can't bare being near him.

My anxiety means I can't handle moving schools before you suggest that. I'm still terrified of him and he has stopped... for now. I need some sort of closure.

I can't cope with the injustice.. I don't know what to do anymore

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Re: Negative Aftermath of Bullying.. - October 12th 2016, 11:34 PM

You shouldn't have to move schools, whether you have anxiety or not, that's really unfair to you just because a guy is abusive toward you and your school administration sucks at handling it. So don't worry, I won't go there.

Have you reported this guys behaviour to the police? You could possibly get a restraining order or something. It might be hard to get a total restraining order, because you're minors and if you guys go to the same school then the police might say without physical violence or threats against your life they can't, but they might have something that would help.

You can also record everything he does. If there are witnesses, ask them to remember what they saw just in case.

Mostly, I'm really sorry this is happening to you. It's not right. I've had an adusive person in my life and it's still able to cause me pa M even years later, so it's ok if you're feeling pretty raw right now. Seeking out a good therapist might be one really helpful step to help you process the experiences and find ways to handle it if it continues. It'll also be someone on your side if you ever need to pursue things legally.

If you need to talk, pm me ok.




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Re: Negative Aftermath of Bullying.. - October 19th 2016, 02:14 AM

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Before I get into it, it didn't let me add more than one trigger warning but I just want to add mental health wise, this post may be triggering to some. (anxiety, suicidal tendency etc)

I was with a guy for 9 months in a controlling relationship. Long story short.. after we broke up he bullied and borderline stalked me for 7 months. My school knew about it 3 months in and he got away with it.

Mentally, I am torn. I have panic attacks all the time regarding him. I'm always paranoid he is going to get me again. I don't know what to do. I've had issues with self harm for years but now it's worse due to what he has done. I've even put myself in hospital trying to commit suicide because I can't bare being near him.

My anxiety means I can't handle moving schools before you suggest that. I'm still terrified of him and he has stopped... for now. I need some sort of closure.

I can't cope with the injustice.. I don't know what to do anymore
Stay off social media, change your number, talk to an attorney for advice. You may be able to press charges and in addition file a restraining order. Save all your texts, emails, and posts for the police.

If you can't handle changing schools talk to your teaches about maybe doing a short homeschool stint and explain why.
   
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Unhappy Re: Negative Aftermath of Bullying.. - October 27th 2016, 02:51 PM

I've seen a psychiatrist that believes I may have post-traumatic stress disorder..
   
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Re: Negative Aftermath of Bullying.. - October 27th 2016, 03:20 PM

None of this is fair to you, I'm so sorry you've gone through this.

It is hard to come up with advice, as I am someone from the outside and I wouldn't want to come across as unhelpful. Since your psychiatrist thinks you have PTSD, did they suggest anything you can do to cope?
   
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