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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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This will end...NOW - February 17th 2010, 03:32 AM

Got in trouble at school on Friday.
It started off well and I was looking forward to the long weekend. Untill the 2nd class. This girl, who never liked me, started saying rude things about me to her freinds. She pretended to whisper to them but said it loud enough so I could hear. This went on for the whole class. Normally I would just ignore it and move on. But I got really mad.

I met up with them in the hallway after class and asked "whats going on" they all giggled and then she made some very crude remarks about me. I lost it. I shoved her across the hall and punched her untill she fell to the floor. The teachers came and took us away. I got a 3 day suspension for violent behaviour and she just got a written note in her file for using offensive language.

I am not a violent person and felt guilty about what I did, but I think it is unfair. She has been picking on me for over a year. I'm just tired of being picked on by her and others, and by guys who think they can touch me whenever they want.

The school has not done anything to help me in the past, so the way I see it fighting is the only thing left, eventhough I know its wrong. I have to make it stop somehow.




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Re: This will end...NOW - February 17th 2010, 03:39 AM

Hey.

I'm going to be blunt here. They WANT you to react.

If you were to leave them alone and act like it didn't bother you they would realize it's a waste of time and move on.


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Re: This will end...NOW - February 17th 2010, 05:01 AM

Its true that they want you to react... but when they want you to react... they want you to look sad.

And once a bully gets hurt, it stops, my assumption is shes probably really scared of you now, and its not going to happen, not from her at least. (I'm not saying violence is the answer though, just its 50/50 whether it makes it better or worse)

I suggest, with any further rummors just say: "yay, gossip!" like your actually happy (ignoring usually ends up with them trying even harder, they'll stop if they think it makes you happy)

Oh yeah, and about the guilt, she'll probably feel guilty as well and try to apologise. violence sometimes converts bullies like some sort of shock to the system anyway, you'll get the chance to apologise when she does, if your feeling guilty about it.


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Re: This will end...NOW - February 17th 2010, 08:20 AM

Well first off I am proud of you for solving your problem, good show. Secondly I recommend you talk to the administration about her harassment of you, if that doesn't work you can have your parents bring a lawsuit against her (essentially her parents) for harassment, stalking, and slander/libel. It isn't actually winning the case that counts but the emberasment of getting taken to court, and her parents anger when they get a call 'Yes your daughter is being sued for X amount".


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Re: This will end...NOW - February 17th 2010, 12:34 PM

Hopefully the girl will leave you alone after that. Sometimes violence is the only language bullies understand so sometimes it is necessary and after all if this has been going on for a year then tbh I really don't blame you for losing it.

If she carries on though then write it all down and tell the head/principal or another teacher because using violence again might get you expelled for good.


   
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Re: This will end...NOW - February 17th 2010, 02:35 PM

some local kids bullied me for ages well more harrased me and stuff and one day i got so fed up of it, i turned round to them (gang of about 13) and shouted fuck off and threatend to call the police on them got my phone out and tapped in 999 they knew i was being serious, they have pretty much left me alone since then i still see them around about and they do shout 'emo' and 'go C word your wrists' at me and stuff i just ignore them and turn my muisc up, but them shouting those at me does bother me abit but i just turn my music up, and because they know i will call the police if they dare come near me they pretty much leave me alone, i can now walk past them and they will shout things at me, but its nothing - they used to gang up on me, run off with things, video themselves ganging up on me. sometimes all people like thesse people need is someone to threaten them in some way that will scare them and that lets them know that you arent gona stand back while they gang up on you and stuff. you never know when you go back to school they might leave you alone.
   
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Re: This will end...NOW - February 17th 2010, 08:19 PM

Well done for sticking up for yourself. You arent the one in the wrong, she is.
I'd suggest that after you 3 day suspension, instead of talking to your head, TELL him whats going on and make him or her understand.

I know its hurtful and I dont blame you for getting mad. Either carry on sticking up for yourself, or make a complete joke of the things this bitch has to say. Laugh at her, or rather make it look like you are laughing with her and agree with what she says! You know the things she says arent true and thats all that matters.

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Re: This will end...NOW - February 19th 2010, 01:20 AM

Thank you for sugggestions and support. I really appreciate it. Maybe now the school will belive me when I report stuff like this. However, I still intend on sticking up for my self...perhaps a bit less physcially.... because life isn't like the movies...there isn''t any hero to jump in and make things right..just me.

Also, maybe the others that have bullied me may not be so quick to try anything. Tomorrow is my first day back off suspention, I'm going to have a talk with the principal and tell everything I had to go through for the past 2 years.

Again..thanks !!!!!




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Re: This will end...NOW - February 20th 2010, 08:08 PM

Hello there Erika, how was school ? Did you talk to the principal ?


I came here to help out, so if you wanna talk or just need someone to bounce ideas or issues off of or something else then send me a message and I will reply as soon as I can.
   
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Re: This will end...NOW - February 20th 2010, 11:48 PM

My first day back actually went well. It was quiet...no one bothered me. I was with the principal and the councilor for about an hour. Told them everything that had happend during the past 2 years. (there were others that had bullied me and some guys that grinded me) I had reported some of it earlier but they did not do much to stop it then. So I'm feeling better. If anything does come up I'll just deal with it then.

Oh... that girl didn't even look at me, or talk to me. I heard she now calls me "psycho bitch" ... hey I must be moving up on her list..I use to be "stupid c*nt" LOL




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Re: This will end...NOW - February 21st 2010, 05:46 AM

ha ha, i didn't think she would say anything to your face, anyway, well played. Keep us up to date if you get any more trouble. (i some how doubt you'll get anymore trouble though)

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Re: This will end...NOW - February 21st 2010, 05:34 PM

well done, well done


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