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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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am I suffering from peer pressure/bullying??? - April 16th 2010, 02:37 AM

I need help:

I used to have a best friend named Lashaunda, but lately she has been acting strange... She starts talkin about my sexuality (which is unknown since I am but 13 years of age) and it is making me want to run home and cry... I also have cut myself due to her and friends of hers for being rude to me...
This all happened at the beginning of the year when her step-dad and mom split up. She has started lying excessively and starting rumors about me.
When she got mean i thought it was all my fault (i still do occasionally). I have cut myself(as previously said), because it seems that whatever i do, she always hates me.
I think she may need help. She has gotten a little out of hand and it made me so sad this Monday (April 12th 2010) that i went to the restroom at the school and tried to make myself throw up. After i tried I felt like crying and grabbing a knife.

She (Lashaunda) makes it so unbearable to be at school at times, i just have no clue what to do... Please help me.

The rumors she has started were:
- I am les (not a bad thing)
- I went to some girls house and got naked infront of her.
- I pulled off clothes and walked down the street while a car was comeing and that there were children in the car.

I don't know what to do and i really want to be able to handle her abusive words without hurting myself...
   
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Re: am I suffering from peer pressure/bullying??? - April 16th 2010, 05:14 AM

everyone has ways to deal with things. and she is trying to distract herself and cover up her pain. you need to confront her about this. and tell her that this is really hurting you. and try to have her talk about the split up. maybe she needs someone to be there for her.


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i wonder when i'll finally jsut start accepting myself, when i'll stop saying i wish i could be like that person.

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Re: am I suffering from peer pressure/bullying??? - April 16th 2010, 01:14 PM

Hmmm well clearly the source of the problems is your friend. I would talk to the school counciler about it. (you should have one) but first if you just want to, talk to her where she might feel more open. (try online)

As for the rumors, people stop talking about them if, when someone refers to or says a rumour about you. Just laugh like you find it funny and say: "Don't you just love rumours?"

And then... you need help now too. note that cutting yourself can become addictive and don't be scared to ask here for help about that. Do your best, and i know this doesn't mean much coming from some random across the internet. but.
don't worry its not your fault, you never need to worry about. hope it works out well... and don't forget to look out for yourself as well as your friend
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Re: am I suffering from peer pressure/bullying??? - April 16th 2010, 04:30 PM

I dare to say that you are suffering from a kind of bullying. That your friend's parents spitted up, can't be allowed as a reason for her to bully you and start such a rumours.
Try to talk to her, face to face. Prepare yourself for that, think of what you feel and what you're going to say. When you talk to her, don't look down, speak firmly and look in her eyes. It may seem an easy solution to talk to her on for example MSN, but it's not sure... she may say on MSN she won't do it anymore, and continue when you're at school again.
If you can't bring up to talk to her like that, I completely understand that. Talk to your parents, your siblings and/or to your school counsellor.
Good luck and if you need it, you can always PM me.
   
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Re: am I suffering from peer pressure/bullying??? - April 29th 2010, 02:36 AM

I would say you are suffering from bullying.
You know why I think this girl is bullying you?
Are your parents still together? if so she maybe jeleous over that fact.
Tell her your sick of her spreading crap and if she doesn't stop thats it you and her are over.
Tell her that you know she's making stuff up, and lying, let her know that if se is willing to stop lying and spreading crap that you are her friend and will talk to her and help her through her parents spilt and such.

Try to stop hurting yourself, she's not worth you hurting yourself.

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