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College people >.< - May 12th 2010, 12:12 PM

I hate the majority of people at my college, they sit near me, well within ear shot and go on about me and my boyfriend.
They have never met him, yet they say he's cheating, he doesn't love me, I don't deserve him, he should dump me, he only uses me for sex etc etc.
I'm fed up of this, I try not to listen to them but it's so difficult to ignore them.

I've talked to my boyfriend about this since it makes me so insecure and it worries me and puts things in my mind like what if he is, what if that's true. When I told him about it he was so undestanding, and told me that those girls were a load of (input explecite words here) and that I should ignore them and that he loves me more than he loves anyone else in the world and more than he has ever loved anyone. And that he would never cheat on me and he even swore to be celbrate to prove that he was with me because he loved me.

I believe all of this and I know in my heart that it's true, but those stupid people put doubt in my mind and becauce of my insecurities then i have to ask him, do you really love me etc etc. It doesn't annoy him but I wish I didn't have to.

I just don't get why they do it, what is the point in trying to make my life difficult and tying to break me and him up?





   
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Re: College people >.< - May 12th 2010, 01:44 PM

I think they are doing it because they want to steal him from you. They are jealous and immature.
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Re: College people >.< - May 12th 2010, 02:52 PM

Would be kinda difficult considering he lives a hour away by plane, it's not like they even know him what so ever, or even seen him, I just don't get it





   
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Re: College people >.< - May 12th 2010, 06:00 PM

It's the usual nonsense gossiping that gets spread around like wildfire, not often based on something that's completely true or it's grossly exaggerated. The only purpose seems to be that it's perhaps viewed as something controversial and gives people something to point and bitch about. Generally one or two people start it either to make your life miserable or based on some reason, while the majority of the people simply tag along for the ride so they can be part of the in-group, which just so happens to involve gossiping and pointless bitching.

Same stuff as in high-school, just a different day.
   
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Re: College people >.< - May 13th 2010, 04:26 AM

Hey there. Its kind of hard to imagine that people who don't know you act as if they do. Are these your friends by any chance ? Or acquaintances ?


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Re: College people >.< - May 13th 2010, 05:14 PM

Acquaintaces, they don't tend to say things about me, just about my bf, it's as if they can't stand the fact that I'm happily in love with someone.





   
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Re: College people >.< - May 13th 2010, 07:55 PM

I think it's all bullshit talk. They'd do it to almost anyone I think... although they might be jealous of you, and do it within earshot on purpose just to put those doubts in your mind and get you to dump him, so they can move in then.

But... reading on, you say he lives an hour away by plane. Lol... Im thinking it's easy to bitch on someone who lives that far away if they are never around long enough to deal with the problem personaly. So here we go... they have absolutely nothing better to talk about, and want something to pick on that won't retaliate. They are just bored looking for any old thing to talk about. I don't get people like that tbh. If you got nothing to say, or nothing good to say, don't say anything. Lol.


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Re: College people >.< - May 14th 2010, 07:41 AM

well seeing as they do it from ear shot, it means that if you were just to purely pretend you can't hear they wouldn't be able to do anything, i suggest you try that for week or so, if that doesn't work... hrmm... I need time to think of something more.. but start with that idea.

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Re: College people >.< - May 15th 2010, 06:16 PM

Ok. Well, considering he lives far away, I would say be cautious. I say this because I don't want you to get hurt. Just be prudent and don't invest heavily(emotionally) in him.

As you are still getting to know each other, go slow. I don't want to make you worry but as I say this, it will worry you.

You can never know what he is doing as he is that far away. If you trust him then very well and good for you, you have nothing to worry about, but just take it slow, as he may be tempted by someone else, and you not being there doesn't make matters any easy.

He may not be doing anything, but just take it slow and let the trust build and make sure you keep in constant contact.

NB : If you have become worry some, please forgive me, i did not intend for that. I just wanted to make you be more cautious that it may be dangerous for him being alone there.


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Re: College people >.< - May 15th 2010, 07:10 PM

I'm not at all worried about him going off with someone else, even though he doesn't live near me. We know each other inside out and are both commitment freaks.
Plus he spends all his tim he's not at college at home talking to me on skype.
Also I know he won't be tempted by anyone else, and if he was he would tell me, he is incapable of lying, it is actually impossible for him to lie.

Also I don't react to anything that they say, I just pretend I don't hear them but they still do it.





   
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Re: College people >.< - May 16th 2010, 10:25 AM

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I hate the majority of people at my college, they sit near me, well within ear shot and go on about me and my boyfriend.
They have never met him, yet they say he's cheating, he doesn't love me, I don't deserve him, he should dump me, he only uses me for sex etc etc.
I'm fed up of this, I try not to listen to them but it's so difficult to ignore them.
Looks like they are pathetic and sad people, trying to get a kick by stressing you out with lies and BS. I have dealt with such people myself, and all i can say is that they have a 2 digit IQ. What else.... pretty much nothing. You can go to the principal and tell him that some of his students are not there to learn, but to seed paranoia and harass you. Who knows, they might get that kick after all. Pun intended.

As for your insecurities, know that they are caused by the idiots. Even if you don't believe them, there is a "background noise" in your subconscious which gives you the feeling of betrayal. Propaganda and manipulation.

Something even better than turning them in is to keep your boyfriend close when they are around, and display a bit more passion than usual. Be a bit aggressive from a psychological standpoint and the bitches will crack.


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Re: College people >.< - May 17th 2010, 03:05 PM

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I'm not at all worried about him going off with someone else, even though he doesn't live near me. We know each other inside out and are both commitment freaks.
Plus he spends all his tim he's not at college at home talking to me on skype.
Also I know he won't be tempted by anyone else, and if he was he would tell me, he is incapable of lying, it is actually impossible for him to lie.

Also I don't react to anything that they say, I just pretend I don't hear them but they still do it.
Good for you then, the trust is there, so forget those other guys and go on and enjoy your life. Don't take even a second thinking about these guys. Hvae fun and have a good relationship and may you be happy.


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Re: College people >.< - May 19th 2010, 09:30 PM

Ignore Them. You obviously have a great boyfriend, and they are just jealous. Don't let them affect you at all, thats what they want is to get to you.
   
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Re: College people >.< - May 20th 2010, 06:55 AM

yeah, seeking autorities is your best bet here, Or... hrmmm... this is the first time i've ever sugested this but... maybe if you had some sort of way to listen to music in class, then not only you can't hear them, they know you can't here them!


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