Triggering (Bullying): School Starts Tomarrow...

[HopelessVictim]

Well, my first day of eighth grade is tomarrow, and I have to admit that I am pretty worried and more than just a little bit scared. You see, last year, in the seventh grade, there was a group of three boys who would tease me and talk about me behind my back. We'll just call them D, P and E. D, P and E had another friend that I will call C, but C didn't bully me like his three friends did. However, all throughout last year, D, P and E kept bothering me, saying that C liked me and wanted to fuck me. I tried everything to get those boys to leave me alone. I ignored them, then I told the school counselor and I even went as far as to tell all of them to go fuck themselves. Nothing worked. So by the end of the year I had given up on getting them to leave me alone and so I began to just take whatever they threw at me, hoping they would eventually get bored with me an move on. But they never did, and now I'm worried that I will have to deal with them teasing me all over again this year. I'm not looking for advice similar or the same as "ignore them and they'll stop" or "talk to the principal or counselor" because, as you've read above, I have tried all of those tactics and none of them have worked. However, I would like some advice on how I should cope if they bully me again this year. I know I shouldn't get so worked up over their petty games, but I can't help it, it bothers the shit out of me. So please, if you have any advice, please don't hesitate to share it.

[RedJames]

Well the fact that you will be going into a different grade (not sure if it will be a different school) if it is and there is different princpal or couceir try them first. Or confront them on your own terms one at a time. Bullies arent as tough when they are single out and have no one to support them. And if that doesnt work a smuch as i hate to say it, start working out and maybe take some self defence classes and confront them phyically. In grade 9 i had a simular problem with 2 bullies and so the summer befor ei went into grade 10 i workedout alot and took some martial arts classes, and second day of grade 10 i let them know it wouldnt happen again. Now im not syaing fighting is the best way to go about it, but sometimes it is in the case of bullies.

[RedJames]

Sorry i just seen you were a girl (getting tired not seeing straight) thou i still hold to my advise up top if it comes down to it. But being that its boys vs you(girl) fighting might not be the best case. Have you gone to your parents about it? They may have more sway with the pricapal on this matter.

[HopelessVictim]

Yes, James, I have gone to my parents. All they did was shrug their shoulders. My mom made me promise to her that I would tell her if they started bothering me again, but I don't want her to go to the school and cause problems with the principal because that would do nothing except make things worse for me. So I don't know what to do...

[HopelessVictim]

Apparently I'm on my own now.

[RedJames]

Well if thats the case and you dont want to get the Principal and your parents involved (which i can understand how you would think it could/would make things worse) is alot fo cases (my old school) the teachers and princapal were useless. In that case, just ignore them as best you can, keep your head held high, don't go out of your way to avoid them (avoid them if possible) but not by making it inconviate to yourself. have fun with your frineds, laugh, enjoy, and when or if they say stuff, just roll your eyes and say "whatever fag" (or something dissmissing like that) after awhile they will give up seeing that they arent getting to you and they will move on.

[HopelessVictim]

Thank you, I'll try this

[RedJames]

your welcome, i hope it works for you keep me posted. It may take a few weeks before they back off, but jusy stay persistant

[BullyPreventionScheme]

On another note... hrmm last post 23rd of august, i'm a bit late....
Anyway.
Since your against boys, boys anti-bullying tactics should work even though your a girl.
Go back to the bully and peer pressure forum. and click on the thread called "New Discovery"

Thats all the answers that i think you will need.

P.S. i kinda like the idea of self defence, not that i respect violence but if you did manage to put them on their backs, not only would they then be utterly scared of you, you would have royally and i mean ROYALLY embbarressed them!