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Peer Pressure and Bullying Social pressure can take many different forms, including intimidation, bullying and even physical attacks. If you feel you could be a victim or perpetrator (who wishes to stop) of bullying, talk about it here.

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It just never stops! - September 14th 2010, 08:33 PM

The kids at my school just don't stop. I know that I'm not the most popular girl in the grade, and I know very well that because of a stupid fight almost three years ago(can't we get over that?) everyone hates me.

The kid who is taunting me right now, is only in two of my classes. First period, and seventh period. Perfect way to start and end the school day. His friends are in the classes inbetween, and guess what. They don't let me forget his taunts all day. He comes up and pretends to flirt with me in first period. That gets a riot out of everyone. Yeah, so funny to make the hated girl cry. At the end of seventh period we're aloud to talk for a few minutes. I generally try to finish homework, or a pull out a book and read for the last few minutes. My science teacher has a lot of books in her classroom, and I'll go and look at them. Needless to say, I have zero friends and twenty-nine enemies in that class. John will come up to me, and make a sexual joke. I always just turn my back on him, or act like I didn't hear him. At least I try to. He does it in front of six other guys. Guess what, they all hate me, and I hate all them! But guess who has the advantage at this point? It sure isn't me.

The girl I have to sit next to on the bus drives me INSANE! I CAN'T STAND HER! When I got home today I was literally shaking I was so mad at her. I've listened to her shit for three years, and this is the first time I've really blown up at her. Ugh.... I'm asking to change seats tomorrow, because if I don't move, well... One of us is going to get in big trouble, and it's more then likely going to be me. Thing is, I have every class with her best friend. Her best friend, hates my guts.... :/

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Re: It just never stops! - September 15th 2010, 08:00 AM

Before I can give that much advice, why do they all hate you / what was this fight?


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Re: It just never stops! - September 15th 2010, 09:50 PM

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Before I can give that much advice, why do they all hate you / what was this fight?
They hate me because I called the most popular girl in the school a backstabbing lair. Yeah, believe it or not, we used to be very close friends. *sigh*

Sixth grade, math class. I had a lot of friends in there for a time. I was working with a girl named Taylor(same girl who makes me so mad now), and I heard three girls from the other side of the room making fun of her. I was friends with one of them. I went up to that friend(one I called a backstabbing lair) after class and asked her why she did that to Taylor. She told me that she had to deal with it for a whole year(catch my lack of sympathy?), so Taylor has to learn to deal with it. I looked at Cici and told her that I've been dealing with it my entire life, she has no reason to act that way. I called Cici later that night and again I asked her why she did that. This time her story was that she didn't hear the joke(yet she was the one who made it!) because she was working so hard on her math work. I hung up, and the next day at school I called her out on it. She got pissed at me and started saying things about me on facebook. I retaliated by just replying to the posts "I don't care what you say. You're just a backstabbing lair Cici!". When we first meet she promised me she wouldn't hurt anyone, I made her promise me that after I overheard her making fun of a kid in our science class. She did it later on. That makes her a lair, and her completely blowing me off like she did makes her another backstabber to me.

That fight was almost three years ago, and no one but her and I will get over it. I don't talk to her, she'll talk to me. I can't talk to her, I'll get myself in trouble.


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Re: It just never stops! - September 18th 2010, 07:02 AM

Alright, I know i keep going on and on about this, but I really like the questioning technique.

When people start bullying you, you need to do two things.
1. Disarm them of their reason to bully you
2. Return their attack with questioning?

So heres my guess at the things they will say and how I think you should react

Bullies: *try initial verbal bullying*
You: umm... why are you bullying me?
Bullies: How is this bullying?
You: *exlain how their bullying you* (e.g. Your insulting me, thats bullying)
Bullies: Its your fault *talks about the fight three years ago* You deserve it.
You: No i don't. I was looking OuT for my friends, you don't really have a reason for bullying me, what your saying is just an excuse so you CAN bully me.
Bullies: *will probably try to rebbutt your argument with another silly excuse*
You: Don't try to avoid the question, Tell me while your really bullying me!

after this they will probably try to keep excusing themselves. Just keep forcing them to answer and they will leave. If they do answer, dig deeper into why and keep questioning until they do leave.

for this you will need to look them in the eyes, not look scared, and have a confident firm voice. Other than that. Stick roughly to the lines I've given you and they WILL leave.


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