My neice

[*~Circus Clown~*]

My neice is in 6th grade. She has this bratty little friend - dare I say a total bitch - who has been completely terrible to her. Its kind of one of those "With friends like these, who needs enemies?" type things. But they are in cheerleading together and they have the same group of friends. Well, this little girl is telling other girls not to talk to my neice. She called my neice fat and told her that the only reason she hangs out with her is because there is no one else to hang out with and she feels bad for her. So my neice gets upset but takes her back as a friend because she doesn't want to have no one.

So my question is, what types of activities do you think I oculd try and get my neice involved in so that she can make friends outside of these cheerleaders? Or what sort of advice could I give her? She isn't dumb or innocent. She knows there is evil in the world, I'm just not sure she can tell that this girl is dragging her down.

Any advice would be appreciated.

[Eljoria]

Wow, that is so similar to my sister; What I can suggest is that, from my experience that everyone bullied me and few hung with me because I wouldn't then be alone but I have learnt that sometimes you dont need a group of friends to hang out with, sometimes you can do things by yourself, keep yourself companied. So the suggestion is to tell her that you're there for her, take her out after school, keep the bond going and she would then be happier.

I hope i helped.

PM me if need.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Cheerleaders are almost always considered in the more popular crowd, so first figure out if you niece is in cheerleading because of this or if she truly likes it. I mention this because I'm a bit confused by what you said. First you said your niece has the same group of friends but then you said your niece takes back the brat because your niece doesn't want to be alone.

Figure out what activities she likes, keep bonding with her and try to over time increase her confidence and self-esteem. I'd also try to figure out why your niece's friend is doing this all of a sudden. It may be something your niece did, so try to figure out the source/reason of this problem. I assume your niece felt insulted by being called "fat" (which she probably isn't since she's a cheerleader), so as smart as she may be, she may not be confident in her image. Find something she's good in, whether it's further academics or other sports to boost her confidence. Also, tell her to not be hurt by the brat's words because the brat is jealous (or whatever other reason, I don't know the situation fully).

[*~Circus Clown~*]

She is in the same group of friends as this girl, and this girl will tell the other girls not to talk to her. So if my Neice is nice and stays friends this this girl - she has other friends. But when they get into fights, the girl tells all of the other girls not to talk to her - and they listen. Thats what I meant by her not wanting to be alone.

And I took her out for a walk yesterday and we talked about stuff, her and I are going to work for habitate for humanity this summer. But she loves cheerleading and I'm not sure I can get her out of it so she can get away from these people. Part of me thinks she stronger then she seems but I think its just because she deflects it. Her and her mom got into an arguement and she said "You all hate me! You all just want meto die! I should just be dead!"...a 12 year old should just not have those thoughts. =\ So I suppose I'm just going to become a bigger part in her life so she knows I'm there to turn to. Hopefully one day she will. I tried to talk to her about this girl but she didn't go into detail.