Pacifist (part time)

[fedup99]

OK, so at my school, I used to hang out with the "cool" kids. Until they started bulying me, because of one of my friends (whom They also bullied). I can shrug things off VERY easily. I see it has an advantage. But when they touch me, I go all out ninja. They don't thnk I'll hit them back, because I rarely do. Normally they stop once I start to defend, but today, this one messed up kid just kept pushing me. (The kind of push you get from someone who is afraid to throw a punch). So I elbowed him in the stomach, and was about to aim for the hip when I suddenly remembered who he was. The "Toughest kid in school". So as I said, after he doubled over in pain, i think i hit a nerve, he just kept pushing me. So I walked away, but feel so stupid.....

[BDF]

I got the same. They can say what the fuck they like but by hell don't get physical with me. Some days I might be slightly more tolerant, but I generally have a short wick before the dynamite goes off. People don't bother me much anymore though, but back in school it was almost daily.

It's a good thing you can shrug off wack comments though, and it's even better you're able to defend yourself. Lots of people just sit there and allow themselves to get slapped in the face and laughed at. It's not necessarily about your strength, it's more about finding the balls to do it.

[fedup99]

Ya That makes better sense. Cuz no one else would have even said anything about it. thx!

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

Clearly he's not the "toughest kid in school" if he's afraid to throw a punch and doubles over from one hit to the stomach, assuming it was the stomach you hit. Don't feel stupid, if anyone should feel stupid, it's him. Think about it like this: if I'm messing around with someone and they kick the crap out of me in just a few hits, I'm not going to try to go at them again because chances are, more crap will get kicked out of me.

You defended yourself properly in that you used as few hits as possible causing minimal damage to get away and you didn't re-engage, which probably would have led to a fight. It is good that you didn't stand around and become a potential punching-bag.

Many people on this site do martial arts of various styles (I do karate, judo and Systema-like self-defense). In these styles as well as in all others, for defending yourself, you do as force as you need to do, perhaps even doing less than what is being done to you. Once the person is down or refuses to re-engage, you don't keep going at them because it's no longer self-defense, it's assault.

As BDF said, strength isn't the key thing, rather it's about having the balls to do something, as well as knowing what to do. If a guy is bigger, stronger, heavier and older, it does not mean he can beat you up, he may have the strength advantage but even if you're not trained, you can use strength (or weakness) against the person.

[fedup99]

Yeah, he isn't the toughest, but he acts like it, so must people dont have a chance to find out. I might have hit his hip, But I'm pretty sure it was his stomache. And thanks both of you, that makes me feel alot less helpless and stupid.

[Sea Monkey]

He doesn't seem 'the toughest' to me, he seems as though he is weak and nasty. Don't feel stupid about it, you were defending yourself for the right reasons. I'd suggest in the future telling somebody about it; nobody deserves to be bullied.

[Cosmo]

I'm like you. I can take being called anything pretty much, but the moment someone starts to get physical, I'm going all out. I used to get bullied by this one guy, and I was wandering around the school playground (I was 12) and he kicked a football into the back of my head as hard as he could. Him and his friends sat and laughed about "Headshot" and that stuff, so as he ran past I clotheslined him, breaking his nose. I think I got a detention, not sure, but it definitely stopped him. I'm not saying that verbal bullying is less serious, but it doesn't seem to affect me as much - someone physically attacking me.. yeah, I'm not taking that shit.