Non-PG13 (Strong Language): Is living a clean life really worth it?

[FranV]

I suffer from a mild form of depression and for this reason......
Im 16 years old and in high school I am in the 10th grade. I have become quite popular in high school, I have best friends from all cliques and I am generally the most loved kid in the entire school, and Im just a normal, friendly guy.

So why do I feel so fucking SAD?!

I am desprate to party with my friends, I appreciate the social togetherness, but I know DAMN well what is in those red cups (Beer, 4 loko, tequila, whiskey) And I know for a FACT that theyre smoking grass.

I want to go out, but I want to stay clean. Please, help me! Im so confused! I feel so left out and jealous when my friends are talkin about how drunk or high they got, but on the other hand I dont dare put such vile disgusting substances in my body. I have always rejected party invites and I never hang out with anyone, I want to come out of my shell and hang with the hundreds of friends that I have. But I dont want to drink or do drugs?

Seriously, the fact that I actually care about my health and the fact that I dont get wasted every friday night makes me feel like I do absolutley NOTHING and I feel like such fucking loser kid with no friends. I feel like this is taking over my life and when this gets really bad, I begin to wonder if there is anything left to live for....

can anyone help me?

[chickenonsteroids]

yes it is.

If they're your friends then they shouldn't care whether you drink, do drugs, throw up when you've drank too much or not.

I was in that position in my old school but i still went to parties etc with out doing all that stuff. However, if you want to stay true to yourself then you don't need to drink or whatever.

[FillingWithHope]

I agree, your friends shouldn't pressure you into doing those things. If you don't want to then go for you, they shuold accept that and move on. a healthy life is good and you will live longer.

[broken_butterfly]

You're not ALONE at all! I feel the same way I lead a Christian lifestyle. I don't drink smoke or use drugs. I don't party or sleep around. and sometimes I do get picked on for being too "perfect" or being on a "pedestal". I think we can all agree it stinks being the "good girl" but it's worth it, in the end because the mext morning you don't wake up hung-over, you don't have guilt or regret and you don't have all that hate and depression. Stay strong. xoxo

[david2357]

you should do what you want but weed aint gonna kill you (not that im recommending it, just stating a fact).


anyways, you should do what you want. dont feel pressured into doing something you dont want to do. in fact, if you dont want to smoke weed, you probably wont enjoy the experience anyways. you could find new people to hang out with, because clearly you dont share a common interest with these people.

[Ghost On The Highway]

I think it gets easier and more fun as you get older. I get super anxious in large groups, like dances and frat parties. The way I used to cope with that anxiety was drinking massive amounts of liquor and beer, getting sick every night, etc. It wasn't even a "social lubricant" at that point -- more a social insulator. I'd get so blitzed I didn't care that I was a wallflower.

These days it's a lot easier. I love going to bars with friends and just having a few beers. And I actually enjoy the taste of the stuff I'm drinking for once! You don't need to get drunk, or even drink, to have fun at bars, poker nights, etc. I don't know what you like to do for recreation (personally, you know, I bowl, drive around, the occassional acid flashback ) but most things besides frat parties and huge house parties can be fun without alcohol or drugs. For a lot of people, doing either something "low-key" or something active (e.g. a dance party, bowling, cards, dinner parties, etc.) is easier to enjoy without alcohol. It's those in-between things where you feel awkward if you're not part of the "in-group" that are tough.

[FranV]

Also another thing. On TV, fughettaboudit!!(brooklyn accent).Shows like Jersey Shore which not only GLORIFY drinking,smoking weed, sex, and violence. But say that if you are not a pretentious hedonist egostitical DOUCHE-CUNT who cares nothing about other people only about getting wasted, you are automatically a loser with no life or friends.

And the douche virus even hitting YOUTUBE! I used to be a fan of Epic Meal Time, then the drunken mess video came out and my point was proven ONCE AGAIN. In that video, Harley Morenstien the main guy presented himself as the biggest asshole known to mankind. Here's the deal. You become a Youtube Partner, you have a whole mess of subscribers that make you free money and you go ahead and spend it on women, drugs and booze? is that anyway to thank your fans? by showing them how fucking egotistical you are? Many EMT fanboys said it was their way of thanking us. I see it as a giant FUCK YOU to all their subscribers.And then I saw the "Sausage Fest" video. And....don't get me wrong, the girls in that vid were SMOKIN' HOT. But that sealed the deal when it came to Morenstien making himself absorbed douchebag. All those 2 videos showed me is that, If your not drinking,smoking and surrounded by women every single waking moment of your life, your automatically worthless and your life is meaningless. When people get that message and they're not the type that party. They are showed that they're losers and their life has no worth whatsoever, thats when self-loathing and suicide come in, because they feel less than human if they are not getting wasted and getting laid all the time. I'm sorry, thats just WRONG. I should know, I was one of those people and I ALMOST did it last year. If it wasn't for my friends that really care, I would be dead right now.


Harley Morenstien, I used to love EMT, but your life is not a fucking 24 hour fucking party, you need to wake up to yourself and realize that your not "cool" by doing this, your making yourself out to be a total fucking douchebag and the only reason why those hot women are on your show all the time is to be on Youtube, not to get in the sack with you.


If EVERYONE in the world is a douchebag like this, then there is so fucking little to live for anymore.

[BDF]

Firstly, most things in moderation are usually ok. Alcohol, should be fine, and in fact weed has been judged to be less harmful than alcohol several times from what I hear, but alcohol is only legal because of the cultural tradition that goes with it, otherwise it'd also be classed as a drug. How harmful weed is or isn't greatly depends on what it's mixed with it. A lot of dealers mix a load of shit into weed and sell it at the same price, just to pocket more money from it.

Myself, I like drinking occasionally, but I hate getting so damn hammered out of my mind that I can't remember anything the next day, and generally speaking I have a lack of respect for people who do that persistently because they think it's cool. Then they post pictures on facebook of each other puking their day's menu like it's something to be proud of.
I've never smoked... simply for very personal reasons I won't go into. Besides, being around cigarette smoke itself gives me headaches, not sure what smoking weed itself would do to me. Never wanted to find out.

I think if you really want to go to those parties, you should, but just take it slow with all the drink and weed to find your footing, and don't let people pressure you. Mind you, once some of your friends will have had some alcohol, they will start losing their inhibitions and start behaving "awkwardly" to you maybe, and they might turn the pressure up, trying to get you to drink. You shouldn't take it personally... if they're truly a decent friend and are understanding then they should just let you be yourself in the end, even if they're drunk.

I totally understand you anger with the shit going on... that it's become trendy to get so drunk that people start dumping their turds under lamp posts, or even better, doing them out of windows into the street during house parties. Plus the drugs, and sex, etc. all glorified by modern media. But drinking doesn't mean you have to get totally wasted like that. Like I said... it's all fine in moderation.

Feel free to pm me if you want to. I've heard the reason that "I care for my health" thrown about a lot by people who don't mean what they say, and I'm not saying you don't care for your health, but I can't tell from this end if that is really in fact the reason why you refuse to drink or smoke weed. In a lot of cases it's just been people simply 'scared' of taking the next step.