Triggering (Bullying): bisexual bulling

[cheetahh]

um hello guys. i was just wondering. y'see, I'm bisexual but i'm also 14 years of age, and i'm really worried that if people in my school were to find out about this they'd bully even more than they do now.

It's just that i also have a girlfriend too, who's more experienced than me at this, but I'm really worried about the "populars" in my school finding out about it...

any tips or like, does anyone know what to do in this situation? :\

[Amberpamber]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. You're going to come across some people that won't like this or that about you. As much as we try we can't please everyone. I'm sure you'll have some that will be fine with it, and unforunately some that won't. Hold on to those that accept you for who you are and ignore those that don't. If you ever need further help feel free to pm me.

[Chris.]

First off, don't be ashamed to be bisexual - embrace who you are. People will always bully you - and will always make fun of you for who you are, but the fact of the matter is that should mean nothing to you. YOU are YOU and no one can make or break that.

If these girls find out, then they find out. The best way to go about it is to ignore them (of course its hard). Bullying sucks - but we all eventually have to face a certain amount of it at some points.

Just remember, don't be ashamed of yourself and who you are - embrace it.


Best wishes,
Chris

[Artistic Soul]

Being bi is nothing to be ashamed of. And a group of so-called "popular" people cannot judge anybody on any basis. So don't try to hard to please everyone. All the best! xx

[cheetahh]

thanks guys.
But one thing worries me the most, about my mum finding out about it...

[Reverie.]

Hi there,

As users have said, being bisexual is nothing to be ashamed of and if people do make fun of you, they're not worth listening to. Your sexuality is a part of who you are, and if people make fun of it, they're in the wrong and not you. At the end of the day though, you don't have to come out about it at school to people who you don't trust, or even to those who you do right now. People don't have to know about it unless you're ready for them to, and if they don't know they wont bully you. However if you do tell people, which is fine, and I'd greatly admire you for having the courage to do so, and people end up bullying you, there are always people you can tell. If it happens, try telling a teacher or parent, and make sure something is done about it. Also remember, if they bully you about it it's nothing to be ashamed of, so don't worry about what they say because they'll be the silly ones. You may find they don't even say anything at all about it.

Whatever you do, good luck and I hope it goes well for you.
Hollie.

[mi-nerdo-deji]

I agree with the others on the peer pressure front, but you being worried about your mum finding out rather complicates the issue. Correct me if I'm wrong here: You're afraid that if the populars find out then the it will go all around the school and the teachers will find out and call your mum, right?

Sorry I haven't any advice to give on the matter.

[cheetahh]

yeah Noah.
that's exactly what I'm worried about...

[blumemusik♫]

If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about your mum finding out. Chances are, she'll find out eventually anyway, so it may be best to TELL her, before she has a chance to find out from someone else.

[Chris.]

Often we all get scared of what are parents might think - but the thing is, in most cases are parents have a hard time with it at first, but then they learn to accept it.

Does your mum love you? If she does, then she will accept who you are - but first, you have to accept and love yourself.

[Briana]

Hey there,
I am pretty experienced with the LBGT community. With coming out in your school-- here is what I have to say, I went to a catholic school for about 12 years. I came out as Bisexual, later coming out as Lesbian. I told my best friend at the time in math class, she was completely accepting and all for it. About 5 minutes after that, the "popular cheerleader" behind me asked what we were talking about, which I then told her and I was shocked to learn how supportive they were. They asked about my girlfriend at the time, which made me feel okay. During that day, the whole school knew, and I didn't receive one bad comment, that day. It was so shocking, specially from a Catholic school!

Now, you have to take a step back and realize that our generation is a lot more accepting than any other generation. You may be surprised by a lot of people's reactions, once you graduate and you look back on the school days, you will be shocked to learn about how many people, in your grade, that were also LBGT, but didn't have courage to come out. If you do, you could possibly open doors to those around you, to be brave. If something does happen, like bullying, you just have to keep fighting. I promise you the bullying stops the day you graduate! I promise you that.

With you family and coming out to them, I always suggest honesty as the number one thing. Sit the family down and be honest. Explain your feelings and how you know, your family will love you no matter what. But, you need to keep in mind that telling family is the hardest thing ever to do. You need to understand that it will take time for your family to adjust, but it will be okay.

Feel free to get more LBGT advice on a YouTube channel I run. We answer questions every day. LBGTLove

[softball]

We have so much in common, haha. I'm fourteen and bi-sexual and I was so worried about people bullying me. Once I'd told my best friend, and a couple of other close people, word got around and for about one day, I got weird looks at school but then it just stopped. Nobody cared that I was bi-sexual. It didn't change the way they saw me.

Just tell who you want to, hon. Eventually people will find out. I can guarentee, your coming out won't make you a bully's target. How can they bully you? You have 50% more chance of finding love than they do, so you should really be laughing at them

Here if you want to or need to talk xx

[cheetahh]

you guys have been amazing. Thank you all so much! X