Counseling Brought It Back.

[Iris. ♥]

I haven't been seriously bullied since I got out of elementary school. Heck, I even managed to forget most of the things that those girls did to me. I just put those memories in a box, locked it up, and threw away the key. I was content just forgetting that they ever happened. My therapist decided she wanted to start getting into those things with me -- the things that she knew I had locked up. Last night, everything about the bullies came flooding back. Those memories were so painful to relive and I was in tears for the longest time. It's out now and I know I won't be able to forget those girls again.

But, here's what I do want to point out: I forgot how painful it was to be bullied by people. I'm sorry to say that there were points after this when I became the bully. For those of you that are still going through it, I just want you know how brave you are to be fighting through it. I know it hurts and I know it's painful, but I promise you that there will be a day when the bullies are behind you. It might not be soon, but that day will come. So, keep pushing through it, guys.

That's really all. I don't know what kind of replies I was expecting. I just needed to post this.

[tined]

Yes, counseling can work if you have a good one. Also, you both have to be honest and receptive to changing yourself, based on recommendations from the counselor.

[Chris.]

I'm glad that he/she was able to get into that locked box, and although it hurt for a few hours, and maybe will carry on for a few days - in the end you will feel alot better that you were able to release those memories.

I'm also glad that you posted this, and it shows hope. Unfortunately when you go through the bullying, you don't ever think there is an end; but there is. Thank you for pointing that out to us!


Overall - this is said alot, and I agree, and I hope that the victims can understand these concepts and hold on and have hope.




Best wishes,
Chris

[Reverie.]

Hey there,

It's a really good thing that those memories have been released, I think. Locking them up doesn't allow you to get over what they did, it just lets you ignore it and that emotion may come out in other ways. So while it hurt when you remembered it, you can now work on maybe dealing with it more effectively, and I really hope that goes well for you.

Thank you for posting this. I think people need the reassurance sometimes, that things will be okay. People who go through bullying ARE brave, and they don't always see that or even believe it. It's nice for people to hear it from someone who's been where they are, so thank you. As for you becoming the bully, I'm glad you've realised it and stopped now. That is an incredibly brave and strong thing for you to do, and I'm proud of you for being able to stop it.

Take care,
Hollie.

[Childish Giggle]

Hey Sammi,
Locking away things in a box seems easier, but it is not a solution to a problem. But that doesn't stop any of us from doing and trying to escape the problem. Its only human to do so. I am proud of you because you were able to open that box! It is very difficult to do so, but you did it! You were brave enough to open it.
Stay strong <3

[simon thompson]

Here Is An Angel

How can we serve others around us? By making our lives inspirational and interacting with tact and wisdom. We should be so cheerful, and our lives such examples, that they say 'Here is an angel.'

[BDF]

Similar happens when I attempt counselling. I just don't do it any more. I cope fine by myself, and occasionally it boils over but I can deal with that.