what can i do?

[kitkat kati]

ive been bullied my entire life. but now its even worse. im a sophomore in high school. the girls in my classes call me a slut, emo bitch, whore, and more. i have a lot of guy friends. the girls in my class say things like "why would he be your firend? oh yea. thats right. cause you sleep around with all of them." and other things similar. just giving my friend Alex a hug i get nasty looks and mean comments on how i sleep around with all of my guy friends. its gotten to the point of some of them not wanting anything to do with me. i know those girls are just jealous, and want to make me lose all of my guy friends... but it really gets to me... and them. i dont know what to do about it... oh yea... did i also mention that im still a virgin?

also. its lessened a lot but sometimes at school i get beaten up. i'll be at my locker minding my own business and suddenly after i close it up i taste nothing but metal. i fall to the ground shortly afterwards and then get kicked quite a few times. i dont get the chance to see who it is thats doing it because after it happens im struggling to get back onto my feet and have my eyes closed, holding my stomach and face in pain. all i know is that its a guy. he told me that if i tell one of the adult staff about it that he will make the beatings worse and will do it more often. it started at the beginning of the year and has now lessened down to about once every 3 weeks. im afraid to go to my locker cause i never know when it will happen. i can tell he does it for no reason too. im a weak emo chick... the perfect target. so i already know why its me he does it to. but i yet again dont know what to do. i already go to my locker with a friend sometimes. but thats it. is there anything else i can do without going to one of the adult staff of my school?

[NoProblemHere]

That's terrible, If I were you, I would just switch schools to a smaller school that has a more strict bullying policy. Luckily I've never had to deal with getting bullied but If I were in that position, I would arm myself with something (a knife, pepper spray, tazer, etc.) and teach whoever was bulling me a lesson.

If you can't switch schools, then stay in groups whenever you're at school. Always remember, it gets better and evil will leave. You just have to stay strong. It will end soon, you just have to wait for it. It's only 2 more years you have left of high school and then you won't have to deal with it anymore.

Fight back if need be and tell teachers or counselors and spread the word.

[kitkat kati]

i cant switch schools. my mom wont let me. ive been from school to school to school to school. i fluncked out of my last school, my freshman year. im taking all of my freshman classes again but am considered a sophomore. so technically i have 3 years left. ive been to too many schools and have never stayed in one school for over two years. both my mom and i want to change that. she said that i cant switch out of this school. and i cant go to any adult staff. the person that throws me against the lockers will know and the beatings WILL get worse. im just glad that it wasnt as bad as it was when it first started. and i hope that it lessens down to nothing. i do carry a pocket knife. but i can never get to it in time. they make sure that i cant get to anything that i can use to fight back with. im weak and wouldnt be able to hurt a fly if i even tried to. ive told many other people but nobody really cares. it seems like im the only person it happens to.

[Total Light Storm]

Hey Kati,


I think you should go to the staff at your school.
Yes, this guy is threatening you and he's put fear into you by saying that things will get worse for you, but if you stay strong and alert those that can help you, things could change for the better and teachers can probably look out more for your safety and pay more attention to what is going on.
This is not right at all and it has to stop. Yes the amount of bullying has lessened but that doesn't make any of it okay or something you should have to tolerate.
Try going into the guidance office at your school and talking with someone. Tell them the threats you have been getting, what has happened to you and how long this has been going on.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to them directly, you can write them a letter explaining to them what has been going on and give it to them when you go to the office to talk to someone.
I really hope this helps and things get dealt with here for the better.
You can message me if you ever need to talk to someone.
Take care and keep yourself safe.

[kitkat kati]

i think i might... i doubt that they will do something though. :/ ive gone to the principal, teachers, counselors, etc for something sort of similar but not as severe and they did absolutely nothing about it. they wont even break up a fight if its happening. wait until its done and then do something about it.

[Carpe Diem]

For your first paragraph, everything you wrote just screams JEALOUSY. All your friends are probably jealous you get along well with a lot of guys and that's why you're getting that treatment. I've seen it a lot before, especially in high school. A lot of girls must also like your friend Alex since you're getting mean looks every time you hug him. Remember: people hate on you pretty much because they're seeing you do something they wish they were doing; they're hating on you because they hate seeing you "do better." It's the truth.

As for your second problem, these things generally don't just stop unless you do something about it... that is until you tell. The guy said he was going to do it more frequently if you told: thing is, if you don't tell, then he's going to start taking advantage of you since he's going to be confident you're never going to do something about it. The right thing to do here is tell an adult so he will be more wary of his actions or so he gets kicked out of the school altogether. I remember having to make this decision once so I definitely know what you're feeling. Don't think about it too much though; tell a teacher or respected adult at your school and just watch, things will start to look up.

Good luck! Carpe Diem.

[kitkat kati]

thanks carpe diem. i know that they are doing it out of jealousy, but they arent even my friends. they even spread rumors about me. saying im pregnant and whatnot. not only do they do this, but they tell me im a fake emo bitch... they tell me that i should just go slit my wrists and die somewhere.... tell me that no one will ever care about me and that im just a waste of space and time.... i get made fun of for being smart, wearing glasses, my style, even told that im fat when i weigh 117, a healthy weight.... its gotten to the point of me just hiding in the back of the room and letting all the whispers about me swarm around the room. bowing my head as i write in my journal and just silently cry, not letting them see me. its been like that almost every day. the teachers notice me crying and have seen the depressing, demented shit i write in my journal... they dont do anything about it... they actually kind of encourage it. my teachers hate me... will do anything to make school life worse for me.

i would go to an adult but i highly doubt that they will do anything... there was a fight between 4 people. 2 preppy cheerleaders, 2 scene/emo/goth girls.... they did nothing when they saw the cheerleaders beating the shit out of the other two... when they were done, they hadnt broken any of the others bones or anything but left many bruises and cuts. guess who was sent down to the deans office and was suspended for a week... the scene/emo/goth girls. the cheerleaders were praised and sent on their merry ways. the other girls had to suffer. if i go to the staff... i doubt they will do anything... and the guy who beats me? im almost 100% sure that he knows that too... so if i do go to someone... he will make the beatings worse and more frequent...

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

If you have several male friends, why don't you tell them you get beaten at your locker by another male student but you don't know his identity. Surely you have marks on you to verify you get beaten. Try asking your male friends if they'll come down to the locker with you because in my opinion, if a guy beats on a small to average-sized girl, he's scum and wouldn't try anything if at least one of your male friends were near-by. The alternative is not very easy and takes quite some time (possibly too much time): take self-defense classes. I often helped to teach self-defense classes with the instructor and it got so popular, a separate class for only female students was created, most of whom were getting regularly beaten either at home, school, etc... . Many teachers will not get in the middle of a fight, which is unfortunate, and I imagine it's because they do not want to get injured in the process or be too forceful and hurt a student.

Carrying a pocketknife is beneficial and dangerous. The benefits are obvious, if you're being attacked, you have a weapon to use for self-defense. The danger is you use the pocketknife, badly injure the attacker and you get in trouble. Given your track record of switching schools and failing freshmen year, it doesn't paint a favourable picture. On the other hand, when someone sees a knife, chances are they'll back away. As mentioned above, I help teach self-defense and part of that includes knife-fighting, both to attack with a knife (most people don't know how to properly do so) but more importantly, how to defend myself and disarm the person. I've had people pull knives on me before either for intimidation or theft. The point is, if you pull a knife on someone who knows how to knife-fight and defend against a knife but you don't, for lack of a better word, you're fucked.

The rumour-spreading of you being a whore, slut, and whatnot is jealousy-based. The girls who call you these names probably find your male friends attractive and feel they cannot be with them since you are so close, thus, they resort to mud-slinging in the hopes someone will believe them and help belittle you. I would say some of their comments may be true, specifically calling you "emo" because you labelled yourself as an, "emo chick", so I find it unfair when you complain of that name.

[Mercyfall]

Gah, bullying really is my triggering point. I found myself clenching my fist and grinding my teeth while reading this. I've never really been a victim of getting beaten up, but I've been picked on. I don't know what the best way to deal with this would be, but I just hope you at least realize that you're better than they are.

[kitkat kati]

i dont complain of the name emo... im fine with just the word emo... its when they add other words such as bitch and slut to it. and i would carry a pocketknife. but i cant do that cause of the security guards constantly watching and making sure you dont have weapons and whatnot. ive asked my guy friends to walk with me to my locker. its just a matter of if they are able to or they have the time to when i need someone to walk with me to my locker to make sure im safe.