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Scared of being Hurt - August 3rd 2016, 09:03 PM

I had dealt with some OCD, and I overcame that but then I started just worrying that someone would break in the house or a sociopath would come inside and hurt me and my family. Every night I tug on the doors to make sure they are looked and I feel like I have to look out the window a few times because I think that someone will be looking threw it and starring at me. I know this is irrational because of how many times I've checked. I also check the stove to make sure all the gas burners are off so we don't die in our sleep. I was googling around, I am pretty sure this isn't Schizophrenia, as I don't hear voices and obviously know what's real and what isn't. I think this is just part of my anxiety, my dad and my brother have bad anxiety too. Any thoughts?
   
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Re: Scared of being Hurt - August 3rd 2016, 09:16 PM

While we can't give you a diagnoses, I have social anxiety, and I, sometimes, do/feel the same way. Have you talked to a therapist about this, or even your dad or brother? Maybe they can give you some advice to help you cope and stay calm when you are feeling like this.

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Re: Scared of being Hurt - August 3rd 2016, 10:22 PM

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While we can't give you a diagnoses, I have social anxiety, and I, sometimes, do/feel the same way. Have you talked to a therapist about this, or even your dad or brother? Maybe they can give you some advice to help you cope and stay calm when you are feeling like this.

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I've talked them about it, they feel the same way. I have just been relaxing and that helps.
   
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Re: Scared of being Hurt - August 4th 2016, 02:57 AM

Good to hear. Hope all is well, best wishes.


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Re: Scared of being Hurt - August 4th 2016, 03:42 AM

This doesent keep you awake at night does it?

I hope it doesent because then you would be stressing out to much.

Then, you might end up getting insomnia.

Well, if I were you I would just lock your bedroom door and make sure everything else is locked as well. Even lock the windows if you have too. I sometimes check the door or hallway, but I never peek out the window. At least, not that often. I really hope this helps.

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Re: Scared of being Hurt - August 4th 2016, 04:06 AM

Hi Stephe!

I'm not a psychiatric professional but I have dealt with OCD all my life (and have extensive knowledge on the subject). What you are describing definitely fits with OCD, so please don't be concerned that you are developing schizophrenia as this will only raise your anxiety level.

Something that can help to stop repetition involving checking is to say out loud what it is you are doing, to reassure yourself that you've done it and done it properly. So, for example, when you check the gas burners, tell yourself, "I've checked the stove and it's definitely off, so my family are safe from fire." Then leave it alone and focus on something else. You do have to be strong willed but, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. The worrying thoughts gradually lose their power over you if you can manage to ignore them.

The thing is that doing things like checking that the gas burners are off and the front door is locked are not irrational things to do. It would be silly to go to bed and leave the house unsafe. The problem arises when you keep doing it, and get stuck in a loop. This is when the OCD can have a really debilitating effect on you. It's therefore important to try and keep it under control. Don't allow those thoughts to get the better of you.

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Re: Scared of being Hurt - August 10th 2016, 06:06 AM

Hmm, fuck it, I will just say it to you, sounds like the beginning of schizophrenia to me.

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Re: Scared of being Hurt - August 13th 2016, 08:56 PM

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Hmm, fuck it, I will just say it to you, sounds like the beginning of schizophrenia to me.
Aside from the fact that we can't diagnose, it doesn't sound like the OP may have schizophrenia as she is not having hallucinations or delusions (which are a key part of the diagnosis for schizophrenia).

'Checking' behaviour such as checking the doors are locked, the stove is off etc., can be a sign of OCD, which can be linked to anxiety. Googling things can help, but as you've found out, can return all sorts of mental health issues which you can't diagnose by yourself.

It's good to hear that you have spoken to your brother and dad about these things, and that it helps to reassure you. If checking behaviours get in the way of your life, it's definitely worthwhile looking into counselling or therapy. You can also try to limit the amount of times you engage with the checking, and over time slowly lower the limit. This helped me before when I kept checking that electrical things were turned off, so I can't guarantee it'll help, but it's worth a try.

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