Career or family

[ThePunkAlien]

Yesterday at a family get together, my parents noted that younger generations seemingly don't want to start a "family" any more in the statistics.

I might be a sap, but kinda found that to be odd and was wondering how true that was.

Note: by family - parents and kids.

When I was in High School (which is aging me - plus this will show the side guys don't often show) - I was in an all guys school and sometimes we'd talk about being fathers.

Right now I'm at the best company I could be at, albeit interning, but know that when push comes to shove however the future plays out - starting a family would come in importance ahead of having the best career I could.

So the question is this - if you had to choose. What would it be: career or family? Also a poll - gender specific, might be interesting...

[Gaia]

I don't know if I want a family yet, but I know I don't want a career to run my life, and be the only thing in my life, so I guess I'll say family.
At least a spouse, children... aren't my thing, but that could just be my age currently xD

I look at people with serious high power careers, and I just never want to be like that. I want a job that interests me, but doesn't mean me staying really late or having to give up other aspects of my life.

I think a lot of people have decided to wait for a family as they feel they need to get their career sorted out first, and also because it's far easier to have a later in life child now than it used to be. People can see having a family at almost any point in their life.

[-Dreamer]

Honestly, I do want both. I would want to focus of my career when I finish college because I would have spend several years on getting to where I will be. Then, I'd like to start a family.

[noise94]

I believe you can easily have both. If I had to choose, family I guess.

[MadPoet]

I think it's possible to have both, and I would want both. But if I had to choose one, I would say family. You can have the best career in the world but it won't make you happy if you don't have people you love in your life.

[Stephanie]

It's definitely possible to have both, but if I could choose only one then it would be family.

[The Morrigan]

I'd rather get a good career going for myself.

At this point in time I don't think I want kids at all. My mind might change when I get older and get married etc. but for now my career is the most important thing. Even if I do have kids I wouldn't want to be one of those stay at home mum's I'd want to go back into work pretty soon after.

[Nutty Nat]

I would rather have a decent career but i would have kids when i have a good/stable income as i couldn't do the stay at home mum,i don't even know if i want kids tbh i like animals more than kids at the minute barking i can put up with but babies crying i can't but yeah im 18 so that might change.

[Acheron]

Heh, there's no way I'm breeding. I want a high-paying career, a sweet penthouse apartment, a string of attractive girlfriends, and no kids ever. I'm going to die in bed, in my sleep, in my seventies, with an empty bottle of tequila on my bedside table and a slim twenty-something redhead snuggled into each shoulder.

[palmtoptiger]

Originally Posted by Acheron

Heh, there's no way I'm breeding. I want a high-paying career, a sweet penthouse apartment, a string of attractive girlfriends, and no kids ever. I'm going to die in bed, in my sleep, in my seventies, with an empty bottle of tequila on my bedside table and a slim twenty-something redhead snuggled into each shoulder.

Sadly enough even though I'm a girl I have to agree. I have no interest in starting a family. Some people call it selfish that I don't want children or a family but it's my own choice. I might still be too young to make up my mind, but I'm pretty sure I just want a to finish school and become a neuro surgeon. If I have time for a family then fine. I don't want to want to have a family and a career then end up neglecting one. If I had to chose either or I'd want a career over a family.

[~Phantom~]

I would start with the career, then I can have a family. They are both good goals for anyone.

[Tara.]

Sure it is possible to have both, but not without making sacrifices on one. I want a family - but I want it the responsible way. I don't wanna just shack up with someone or accidentally get pregnant.

[Smitten]

I see neither as a single option
I won't settle for less than both.

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

I think it is possible to have both. However if I had to choose I would choose a family.

[Celestial.]

I definitely want both.
But if I really had to choose... family.

[losing touch.]

career i guess. i want to be independent and never have to rely on anyone else for money. i'll probably consider adopting at some point.. but only when i'm settled and can afford it.

[Pelios]

My career will come before I start a family. I want to give my future kids everything I can and without a good established career that would be impossible.

[Soliloquy]

I chose family.

[Thurineth]

Both for me I want a good career but i'm getting broody -_-

Kids won't be on the horizon for a few years, but i'd definately want to have both!

[Verità]

I'd focus on family after my aspirations career-wise were fulfilled.

[ALLorNOTHINGforCHRIST]

Most people are waiting for families these days, because of careers; which is in a sense good because raising a family is costing more and more.

[Power Cosmic]

Career, obviously xD

[rosalinbush]

I think that you can have both. That's how it works. First you go to school or become self-made, then when you are together, you'll find a family. that's how it should be. But on the other hand, if you deceive unattended and do not pay too much mind about your future, it will eventually back.

[Marshmellow]

I really do want to have a family. It's been one of my dreams I've had all of my life. I'd like to have a career, too. But family always comes first. I don't want to be one of those crazy moms who's always at the office, on a business trip, and always missing the kids' soccer games, music concerts, and so on. In today's society we're always on the go. But I do know parents who do successfully both. But then there are always the kids you see being dragged around by their friends' parents.

[Ellie]

I've always wanted a child so I'll say family. It's probably the only thing that's been constant with me most of my life!

[hopefaithlove]

Family. But realistically someone needs to making money so someone in the family needs a career.

[MisplacedDreamer]

Well, two generations ago, people could get a job working at a factory and they could make ends meet on that wage. Now a days, getting a job right out of high school that can support a family is practically unheard of plus the costs of raising a child have gone up. I don't want to have a kid till I have two years as a nurse under my belt. I will be 27 then. I think I may want to have a kid when I am 28 to 34 range.

So I want a family, but I don't want to be a struggling single parent with limited income.

[Elizabeth]

I'm hoping that I can start my carrer. My boyfriend, who is a year behind me in schooling can be finishing his degree while I start our family. =)

[Awakening]

I really would like both but if I had to choose I'd go with family.

[newbie552]

i'm not sure if i really want to have kids but i know that the job i want might have to run my life to a certain extent so i'll put career

[Nomatophobia]

I would want a career first, and then when I can make enough to support a family and so can my other half, then we'll have children.

[Musical]

Both. But I'd have to say family first... I have high career aspirations that I would like to accomplish in the meantime.

[her_beautiful_mistake]

I intend to have both.

I am prepared to make sacrifices on both parts. For example, I would like to start a family now and although I am pretty young I feel emotionally ready to have a family now - don't know why! but I cannot as I am still focusing on my career, and will be for the next 7-10 years. I would like a large family, but I know I won't be able to as it would make it too hard to find a balance.

Actually,
thinking about it,
I would struggle to sacrifice any part of my career.

I guess I will deal with that when it comes.

Maybe my sacrifice will be marrying someone who is happy to have a large role in the family.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

I voted career. I want a lot of money in an amazing mansion or penthouse, a large amount of attractive women and only the finest items. Later on, I'll settle for a family so I can spread the family name but only when there's a boatload of cash for myself ... and a few bucks for the kids. Marriage isn't something I want as it means it creates more drama and bullshit I have to put up with as I want to be free.

[TakeTheLeap]

I want both. I always have.
My fiance and I have talked about it quite a bit - I'm not the kind that will want to stay at home "barefoot and pregnant" all the time. I want a family, and family will always come before career when it comes to making decisions about the future of the family.
I do plan on getting my career started and getting a good financial base before getting married and starting a family. In this economy, it's hard for a lot of people to support a family with just one income (especially considering I'm going to be a teacher and my fiance is going into the Navy). Many women don't have a choice whether they're going to work or not these days.

It's totally doable to be both a career woman and a mom. You have to prioritize sometimes, but that's true with anything. You -can- do both and be a "Super Woman."

[Brandon]

If I had to choose, I'd choose career because having a career is more important than family. Despite what some people believe, money can buy happiness (but I'm not arguing that it will). And if you want a family, you'll have the money to do so and increase your chances of a woman marrying you.

[Kanye West]

I would say if I had to choose, career.

I really really really want to have a successful career. I'm not even thinking about a family right now. That's not to say that having a family isn't important, it just isn't as important to me at this point in my life.

[marladenis]

Without a career, family will not respect,
Without a family Careers are redundant. So both are equally important to have a meaningful life!