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Teacher playing favourites... - June 19th 2012, 11:31 PM

i have this english teacher, and also she's my year advisor. but here'e the thing, she treats the "popular" people like they actually exist, but as for the rest of us (including me) she treats like we aren't worth her time. i dont get it. if she's supposed to be our year advisor, she should treat us all equally, and also, who am i supposed to talk to now, if she acts like she never gave a shit in the first place?!
i went and talked to her about my depression before, thinking i could trust her, because i thought she would actually be a great person to talk to, but no, she said there's nothing that she could do to help me, and that she couldnt do any more than what she had already done...(which was practically nothing btw)
all i ever wanted was to "talk" to her, for her to sit down and ask me how i was feeling. i wanted her to notice, but if a "popular" person was going thru the same thing as me, then it would be a totally different story, she'd be helping them out like there was no tommorrow. it sucks, and it really friggin pisses me off.
should i be angry about it or should i just accept the fact that shes not going to change who she is as a person and to just leave it be. ?


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Re: Teacher playing favourites... - June 19th 2012, 11:42 PM

I think you should try to go to her and talk to her again, if she just dismisses you, ask why. Asky why she says she can't help you and explain to her that you just want someone to listen to you and ask how you are feeling. If she still won't help, then you could a. just leave it be, as she probably wonn't change or b. maybe take it up with the school and explain how it seems she is picking favorites.
   
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Re: Teacher playing favourites... - June 19th 2012, 11:46 PM

im kind of afraid what she might say in return....she's a bit of a bitch


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Re: Teacher playing favourites... - June 19th 2012, 11:54 PM

The majority of teachers are advised not to become overly involved in student's personal issues and to refer you to somebody more appropriate and more capable of helping - in your case, as it sounds like you want somebody to listen and to care, how about giving talking to your school's guidance counsellor (or other counsellor if they're available) a go? He/she would be much better placed to help you, and you could discuss your concerns about the perceived favouritism of your year advisor at the same time.
   
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Re: Teacher playing favourites... - June 19th 2012, 11:57 PM

i've talked to a counsellor, but i dont know why it feels like i only want to talk to my year advisor...


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Re: Teacher playing favourites... - June 19th 2012, 11:59 PM

Maybe you should talk to a guidance counselor or someone else instead about what's bothering you if this teacher doesn't listen. Also it might be a good idea to tell someone else about what this teacher is like and maybe they could help in that situation. I never had a year advisor or anything like that at my school but you could also talk to another teacher who you feel comfortable with and maybe could trust better.
   
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Re: Teacher playing favourites... - June 22nd 2012, 03:30 AM

Some teachers are really just "older teenagers," if you know what I mean. Basically, they are in positions of authority, but they still get caught up in the social hierarchy (even though they shouldn't). As a result, they may express favoritism toward the "popular" kids, the athletes, the honor roll students, etc. Is it fair? No, but unfortunately, that's pretty common, both in school and in "life." Your future boss may have a few favorites as well, and it's something you'll have to learn to deal with.

You could talk to your teacher again, and express that it would mean a lot to you if she would just listen for a few minutes. In all likelihood, though, she'll brush you off again, or stare at you blankly while you talk, or refer you to the guidance counselor. You have to be prepared for that possibility, and accept that some people just aren't going to "be there" for you. I mean, if my boyfriend's car broke down, I'd go out of my way to help him out... but I wouldn't do that for someone I barely knew. The same concept may apply with your teacher. If that's the case, you'll need to accept the situation for what it is and get support elsewhere. People get rejected - but don't let that rejection weigh you down.





   
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