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So much to do--TOO much - December 12th 2013, 04:28 AM

Ok, so this is kind of a rant...ish.
Anyways, I've been getting really stressed in school. Finals are coming up, but it's not just that. I've always been a really great student (straight-A's and turning in homework) but for the past year or so I've been kinda slacking off. I have severe anxiety and depression, and everyone else I know who has anxiety isn't doing well in school...but my good grades in school is one of the things that defines me. Plus, I'm obsessed with my future, and without good grades, I won't be, as I call it, "Setting myself up for success".
So the biggest problem I'm having right now is that tomorrow I have a drama final where I have to perform a play, and I'm so unprepared. I haven't got all of my lines down. I'm just really nervous and I don't know what to do.
Anyways, any advice for someone who WANTS to get good grades, but can't it in her to, well, care if they actually are good?
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Re: So much to do--TOO much - December 12th 2013, 04:52 AM

Hello, and welcome to TeenHelp! =)

Thinking about the future can be scary, especially during high school and college. You're constantly told that you need to "get your act together" and, as you put it, "set yourself up for success." Since many people use grades as a way of determining success, it can put a lot of pressure on you to focus on grades and neglect other areas of your life. The problem, as you've discovered, is that you can never neglect your mental well-being. If you begin to experience depression or anxiety, then EVERYTHING can suffer (not just grades).

Have you considered telling a school counselor or mental health professional about what's going on? Seeking help can seem just as scary as thinking about the future, but there's a difference: seeking help can actually EASE your worries about the future. There ARE people who are willing to help, if you can work up the courage to tell them you need their help. You may not feel terribly happy or hopeful at the moment, but I'm guessing that you would LIKE to feel happy and hopeful someday... so why not take a step in the right direction now, even if it seems like it would require a lot of energy? Making the effort now will pay off in the long run. =)





   
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Re: So much to do--TOO much - December 12th 2013, 05:11 AM

Hello there, welcome to TH I'm sorry you're struggling with this so much. I completely understand the anxiety and some of the depression. I have to repeat a class for the 4th time because the "class participation" is such a high percentage of the grade that I can't get enough points because my anxiety is so bad it's not worth fighting through.

The fact that you have had such good grades means that you CAN earn them. Do the best you can and remember that nothing has to be perfect. I know what it's like to have your good grades define you and then when you suddenly do poorly in something, you almost don't know who you are anymore. There is more to you than your grades, and there are plenty of good things. The motto I live by is :If life doesn't turn out exactly the way you plan, the world doesn't fall apart." Just because you don't have straight A's doesn't mean you're doomed to be a failure at life. Part of this might be the fact that it's finals too, and you've kind of had enough school and you need a break

Also, I would suggest seeking some professional help for this. The sooner you can get treated the less you have to suffer, and the stronger a hold it has on you, the less you're going to want to do it, but it's worth it.

As for getting through tomorrow, prepare as much as you can in the time you have left, get enough sleep, do the best you can, and remember that it doesn't have to be perfect. Your best is good enough.


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