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Unhappy Career over girls? - February 25th 2014, 09:36 PM

Hello, it's my first time posting on this forums, or talk about this to anyone at all. English is not my main language so don't be harsh

Well, I'm a 17 year old boy, and about three years ago, I had to decide either I'd go to some normal course in high school, or take a computer course. I selected the computer one because it would be more beneficial for me, as you would expect there's no girls in the class, at first it didn't seem like a huge problem, but now,that I'm almost finishing it,it is, and I see most my colleagues making steps on their relationships, either starting one or already in one, and I kinda see myself getting left behind(I didn't even had my first kiss yet ) , probably because I'm very shy and low self esteem, and because there are no girls in class and I can't go talk to one after class because of my shyness.

This year I'm applying to go to college, and if I don't get in college, I don't see myself finding a girl, or even if I get in, the kind course I'm taking is again computers, which means less girls too...

I'm average looking and a bit nerdy

Any advice ?

I'm not sure if this is the best section to put this in, but it was the one it felt it should be here.

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Re: Career over girls? - February 27th 2014, 02:51 PM

In the US, they make students take general education courses like English, fine arts, and so on. You will meet quite a few people in those classes. Some of the other classes may become specialized like some math classes are geared for specific majors like calculus for health science majors.

There are also clubs that you can join in most colleges. Even my community college had some clubs. Then there are some classes like kick boxing that I used to take. The larger university I went had a lot more clubs however they are around.

Do you have a job? A lot of people meet their significant others through work. I think a third of my coworkers date people that they worked at work. This can create tension though and some of my friends had issues through dating coworkers.
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Re: Career over girls? - February 27th 2014, 06:57 PM

Hey there,

First off, don't worry, because you haven't got a girlfriend yet. Just most of the others are in a relationship, doesn't mean you have to be too. It's perfectly fine to start dating at 20 or 23, or even later. This is not a race or something.

If you want to meet girls, maybe you should try some clubs, a new sport, volunter for something or the likes. It's a great way of meeting new people. Noone forces you to only hang out with people from your courses.
Also, don't let your college choice be influenced by something like this. Do what you love and get awesome at it.
A guy who lies to himself and denies himself his chances is not something girls like, but most of them like people who are true to themself and do what they love. Being passionate and open about whatever it is you love, may it be computers or something else is just awesome.

Oh and from personal experience most girls don't want to be hit at. They want to be friends and see how good you get along and if they like you then maybe they will contemplate getting into a relationship. So try to befriend first. You can be friends with girls without dating them.
If you step up to a girl with that in mind, you may be able to be a bit more relaxed and be a bit more open, 'cause it's easier getting to know a new friend than trying to find a girlfriend.

So just be yourself, do what you love and one day I'm sure you will find a girl that wants to be in a relationship with you. Just don't try to force things.

It's ok to give in to an urge or make a mistake. You are only human and we all have our flaws. We all have our weak moments and we all make mistakes. Thats what makes us human.
Thats what makes us unique and beautiful

Courage isn't always a loud roar. Sometimes it is a quiet whisper at the end of a day saying: Tomorrow I will try it again!

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Re: Career over girls? - February 28th 2014, 01:20 PM

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