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Less than three weeks. - August 30th 2015, 03:43 PM

Its now one day less than three weeks until I go to university. I'm still stuck in a psychiatric unit (although I am getting leave) and I am panicking that I am not going to be able to cope because of my mental health problems. I'm scared about making new friends, living in halls with new people, the course, everything, all of it.

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Re: Less than three weeks. - August 30th 2015, 04:25 PM


Congratulations on getting into university first of all! That's great and I really hope you enjoy it. You should know that a lot of people at university are going to find it really difficult to begin with too. Chances are you'll find a lot of people in tears, missing home, and probably strugging with the work load too. It's not unusual. But you have a few extra things that will make it a bit harder which universities can help you with too. A friend of mine went through a bit of a hard time when he moved to university and he found that they can be really useful with counsellors and guidance. Sometimes they might offer services to pair you up with an older student who can mentor you and hopefully help you settle in a little bit. Otherwise, try talking to some staff at the health centre at your uni as that can really help you come to terms with a lot of the worries that you have too. Don't be afraid to let them know your circumstances as they're there to help you and mke it as easy as possible.

If you're living in halls, you could try having a look at social media pages to see if you can track down some of the people in your flat and talk to them before hand. That way when you move in it's not so much of a shock. Otherwise, people are generally pretty friendly when you move in as they're all in the same boat as you. Try leaving your door open and asking people about their courses and where they're from. Maybe see if a few of your flat mates would like to go to the freshers fayre with you, or maybe some of the freshers events too. Again, you might be able to arrange what you'd like to go to before hand by looking on the student union pages. You could also ask if they want to have dinner together in the week, even if you're all ordering in some pizza or something. It can help break the ice a bit and hopefully settle you in a bit more and make you feel a bit more at ease.

I lived at home for my first year, so the friends I have made actually came from my course rather than the halls, and you might find that this is the same for you. Chances are you'll have to do group work, so that's a really good way to meet people. My uni actually introduced a mini module to force people into groups as they found that people make friends easier that way. Try talking to the people you sit with in lectures, especially if you find you sit with them regularly. Seminars will force you to interact as well but don't stress too much. Everyone is a bit nervous at first and in the end you'll grow more comfortable around each other and not find it quite so bad!

In terms of the course, again, everyone starts off nervous. It's brand new and it's a lot of hard work but if you love what you're studying it really helps. There will always be modules you don't like as much and don't do as well in, but keep at it. Try getting a group together to make it more enjoyable, and having a laugh in lectures sometimes helps too. I find that having a cup of tea with me helps relax me a bit and sort of keep me in the room too, so if that helps you it's something you can try. Again, if you're finding any of that difficult, services at the uni are there primarily to help you out with that. There's nothing wrong with worrying or being upset, nothing at all. Never be afraid to talk to them about it.

Good luck with everything! University can be incredible and I hope that you really enjoy yourself. Feel free to talk to me if you need anything at all.

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Re: Less than three weeks. - August 30th 2015, 05:25 PM

Hello, Jessie: First off, congratulations on such a huge life step, both in taking leave from the hospital and heading off to university.

Your concerns are understandable ones, especially given all you have dealt with. Honestly, many others - even those who have not struggled with mental health issues - experience similar nervousness in this type of situation. The great thing about college and university is that there are all kinds of activities and such you can seek out which are tailored to your interests. This could help you in meeting others like-minded as yourself. Based on your posts here, you seem like a very intelligent, thoughtful and caring individual and I'm sure many people will be drawn to you and wish to be your friend, and will be happy to help you settle into your new surroundings. Best of luck.
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Re: Less than three weeks. - August 30th 2015, 09:28 PM

The most important thing will be continuing to take care of your mental health issues. I would strongly suggest making an appointment with a professional at the health center and doing so EARLY it can take forever to get in for your first appointment, after the first one, it will be a lot easier. If you're still involved with the hospital, they can probably help you figure something out.

Time management will probably be the second biggest thing. Try not to procrastinate (I know, everyone is pretty bad a this) get a planner of some kind or use your phone and write everything down. Skim your reading assignments and break the big papers and/or projects into smaller, manageable pieces.

Living in halls can be stressful, the shared bathroom alone was my biggest issue I'm a very private person and yeah. Not everyone understands the concept of cleaning up after themselves.

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Re: Less than three weeks. - August 31st 2015, 11:46 PM

Thanks for the great advice guys. Luckily (even though its a lot more expensive) I have an en-suite and I have also joined the social media groups and am talking to the people in my flat which is helpful.

But your advice has been really helpful. So thank you!

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Re: Less than three weeks. - September 2nd 2015, 04:10 AM

My advice is to be you and take things one step at a time. Don't overwhelm yourself with everything. Focus on your classes, and the rest will flow. You'll meet friends in study groups, and such. Just take it a day at a time, and breathe.

Create a schedule and try to stick to it. You'll need time for studying. A lot of students mistake college for being a break from the parents, and partying. Don't fall into this trap.

My advice for studying is this: A lot 2-3 hours per credit unit per week. So if you're taking 12 hours, schedule at least 24 hours a week to study (meaning a total of 36 hours/week will be sent on solely school, AT LEAST -- it's like having a full time job), maybe longer depending on if you're struggling with a class. Try to create a designated end time. For me, I stop at 8pm every day. No matter what, the exception is on Fridays, I stop around 5-6pm so I can go out. Set 1 day aside where you don't do ANY studying. Make this your free day (I choose Saturdays to recover from Fridays). The day where you go out and have fun. It's important to get a plan and stick with it. As long as you study, and put forth the time required for your classes, there's no reason you can't succeed. You just need to be deliberate in following a schedule.

If you need anything, PM me. Good luck!

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