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Angry "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 4th 2015, 07:08 PM

Hey there So I absolutely love my high school, I think it's a great one compared to some others in my area, and I think that if I would have gone anywhere else, I wouldn't have felt so comfortable as I do here.
One of the main reasons I love this high school so much is the diversity, and the fact that students aren't afraid to be themselves and be weird. This mainly comes across in the way that we dress -- quite a lot of people wear unusual and eccentric clothing, and many of us have dyed hair in unnatural colours such as blue or green or red. However, the school Principle is against us students having dyed hair; actually, a friend of mine dyed her hair bright pink recently. She told me today that her parents recieved an email from the school claimong that she "montre trop de sa personalitť" (that she shows too much of her personality) and that she should "tone it down" (I can't remember their exact words for this second quote). WTF?!?!
How on earth can someone "show too much of their personality"?! isn't the best way to live life to discover who you are and then take pride in being that person and be comfortable in your own skin?! And shouldn't school be encouraging us to discover ourselves and then make the best of it?!

I've spoken about this with my friends and my parents and we all agree that this is ridiculous.
I, my friends and even my parents all agree that the situation is ridiculous, and that the Principle is enforcing his more *ahem* dated opinions onto us, and that there is no concrete reason for why we shouldn't be able to dye our hair unnatural colours.
What is the point of school? To teach the students. Would having dyed hair make it anymore difficult for someone to either teach or learn? No. SO WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?!?!?!?!

We are thinking about doing some sort of petition which could be signed by the students as well as the parents and then handing that in. So we'll see how that goes.

Anyway, I thought that this whole thing was very interesting and is also seen in other cases where a "leader" of the previous generation tries to enforce rules which he had to follow in his/her time, even though it makes no sense and that the reasoning is outdated. So what are your thoughts on all this?


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Re: "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 4th 2015, 07:45 PM

What constitutes "too much" is very subjective and I think that if everyone is being allowed to do what they want with regards to their appearance, it's unfair that this girl should be singled out.

The principal should have realised that if students are given the freedom to express their individuality, then of course some are going to dye their hair unnatural colours.

If s/he wants to avoid this, they should enforce a school uniform.


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Re: "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 4th 2015, 08:54 PM

Our rule was that we couldn't dye our hair unusual colors or have crazy, (not the word they used) hairstyles. Their argument was that it interfered with learning because it's distracting. I'm not sure if there's any truth to that or not.


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Re: "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 4th 2015, 09:34 PM

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Our rule was that we couldn't dye our hair unusual colors or have crazy, (not the word they used) hairstyles. Their argument was that it interfered with learning because it's distracting. I'm not sure if there's any truth to that or not.
Same here. We were required to wear uniforms and were not allowed to dye hair in unnatural colours either. Teachers also said that it was distracting. Now, if you want to delve deeper into the issues, there is such a thing as the 'hidden curriculum' in sociology. The general idea is that rules like wearing uniform, standing in lines, standing up for the headteacher etc., aren't in the actual curriculum but are actually supposed to be suppressing students and making them obey authority figures ready for when students leave and get work. It came about centuries ago when education was mainly for the privileged, but was opened up to lower social classes. However, the privileged didn't want the lower social classes to climb the social ladder, so created these rules to keep them in place. I think, don't quote me on that.

So yeah. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with dying hair and see that the Headteacher was being unfair. Now, wearing uniform or not is another debate


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Re: "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 4th 2015, 09:58 PM

Yeah, I was in public school, no uniforms, but obviously a dress code. My friend went to Catholic school until high school and had uniforms and stricter rules like wearing colored or glitter nail polish got you detention, but clear was okay. We never discussed uniform vs. no uniform because it just never came up. I think she had more issues with the rules than the uniforms.


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Re: "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 5th 2015, 05:11 AM

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What constitutes "too much" is very subjective and I think that if everyone is being allowed to do what they want with regards to their appearance, it's unfair that this girl should be singled out.

The principal should have realised that if students are given the freedom to express their individuality, then of course some are going to dye their hair unnatural colours.

If s/he wants to avoid this, they should enforce a school uniform.
It wasn't that she was being completely singled out, other students with dyed hair have been sent similar letters. My friend is just an example of this.


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Re: "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 5th 2015, 05:14 AM

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Our rule was that we couldn't dye our hair unusual colors or have crazy, (not the word they used) hairstyles. Their argument was that it interfered with learning because it's distracting. I'm not sure if there's any truth to that or not.
Yeah, but they never give a concrete answer! I'm not distracted in class if someone with brightly coloured hair is sitting in front of me. I think they're just saying that because they were brought up that way and they don't know any better.


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Re: "Showing your personality too much"?! - November 5th 2015, 05:34 AM

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It wasn't that she was being completely singled out, other students with dyed hair have been sent similar letters. My friend is just an example of this.
Whether it is just her or everyone with brightly coloured hair, my point still stands.

Why draw the line at hair when there are other forms of self expression which can also be viewed as showing one's personality (e.g. piercings)?

We don't really have these issues in the UK, as most schools require students to wear a uniform. It seems to make life a lot simpler.


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