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Out of state? - November 26th 2009, 12:21 AM

So here is the deal. Im at a community college right now for my first year of school to save some money. Now ive narrowed it down to two schools i will transfer to after this school year. One is the state college which is about 40 min away from my house. The other one is a 25 hour drive (so a plane ride away). I really would like to go to the out of state one. the academics and cost for both will be the same so thats not a factor. Seriously the only thing Im worried about for the out of state one is losing my friends since i will be only home for summer and christmas. Is that a bad reason to not go to a school? i know there is facebook and all that but a couple of my friends went off to college last year and we talk and stuff on facebook but when we visit during breaks it just seems different. I really want to go to the out of state school but im worried about losing my friends. what should i do? should i just deal with it and hope that we will still be friends when we get back from college?
   
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Re: Out of state? - November 26th 2009, 01:33 AM

I just went for two years at a community college and I am about to transfer across country to my university. I am super sad I am leaving everyone I know, but this is what I want to do. And if I don’t do it, I will always wonder “what if”. You need to decide which one of these is worth more. If you stay with your friends will you wonder “what if I did leave to go to school”. If you go to school will you wonder “What if I didn’t leave my friends?” Its up to you.




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Re: Out of state? - November 26th 2009, 03:44 PM

I would make sure cost really isn't an issue, considering that there is more than out-of-state fees. There is the cost of gas and airplane tickets when you want to go home. My biggest concern would be money.
I would do it if you think the college out of state is better. You need to do what is best for you.
   
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Re: Out of state? - November 27th 2009, 06:06 PM

The best advice I can give is to go on an overnight visit before you go. I was going to go to one school and it was ok until I moved in the weekend before classes started and realized that I hated it there. It was only 45 minutes from home so I was able to come home and go to community college for 2 years then transfer to a better school 10 minutes away. Anyway, it would be a lot worse if you get there and the same thing happens to you.


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Re: Out of state? - November 29th 2009, 08:36 AM

As harsh as it may be, forget your friends in this decision, don't let their presence hold back your academics and future career. You'll make new friends where you go and you can still keep in touch with old ones. Besides, your current friends are probably going to go elsewhere anyways so you can use skype, facebook, email, etc... to keep in touch but make new friends also.
   
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Re: Out of state? - November 29th 2009, 01:51 PM

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As harsh as it may be, forget your friends in this decision, don't let their presence hold back your academics and future career. You'll make new friends where you go and you can still keep in touch with old ones. Besides, your current friends are probably going to go elsewhere anyways so you can use skype, facebook, email, etc... to keep in touch but make new friends also.
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Re: Out of state? - November 29th 2009, 01:56 PM

I've been to two colleges, about 4 hours apart, and from what I've learned is friends come and go even though you both may not want to let it happen. When I talk to friends from my junior college it's cool to see how our lives have taken different paths. That's the bad part about college, you make friends, have them for a few years, and then possibly not see each other again. However, there are those friends you keep in contact with for years and years. I'm still at my second college and I've already seen friends come and go just in the past four years. Good luck with everything.


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