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I can't STAND her anymore!!! - January 18th 2010, 12:49 PM

So my band teacher is pretty much my hero... or at least she was...
This year I've been really questioning what I was thinking in holding her at such a high place. She's actually quite a bitch. She's the kind of person who will do whatever she can to make a group of people as good as they can possibly be, regardless on it's effect on the individual person. Here's three examples for ya.

At our school we have a Madrigal Dinner every December and all choir students (that would include me) are required to participate, with optional participation for band students. We get sheets when we start to work on music to sign up for the role we would like to play. I was in Brass Choir (I play trombone) my freshman and sophomore year, so I wanted to branch out and try something new this year. My first choice was Jester, which requires an auditon, my second choice was Beggar, and my third choice was Living Statue. Note how Brass Choir wasn't one of my choices. I didn't make it into the Jester Troupe (it's honestly a popularity contest), and my choir teacher let the freshman boys be Beggars since there isn't much else they could do. So I was all set to be a Statue and I was really excited. She more or less guilted me into being a trombone-playing statue, which I was okay with. But then she forced me into playing a couple of songs which would require me to be in the Brass Choir costume for, so no more Statue for Summer, and yet again, I was stuck in the brass choir corner.

Yesterday during school, she locked me in her office for two class periods to work on a late paper I have in a class I'm failing. She doesn't care that I might fail, but that if I do, she has to kick me out of show choir. It wouldn't really bother me if she wasn't so anal about it. She literally said "Summer, I'm going to be your worst nightmare for the next week. You will go to bed tonight, close your eyes, and see me dressed as a ghost haunting you in your dreams." That's just creepy, especially since she was in my dream last night.

Then after school yesterday, I was in show choir rehersal, and we were dancing in costume for the first time. You should know that I'm quite a horrible dancer, and I know it. I'm improving, but I'm still pretty bad. So I was doing okayish except for the fact that I was in costume for the first time so I wasn't used to it. But as soon as we stopped, my teacher yelled from across the room "Wow Summer! You're REALLY horrible!" I wanted to punch her. no joke. Then when we were in the practice rooms changing back, she walked up to the window, stared inside (there were several other girls in there changing too), and shouted as loud as she could "SUMMER!!! YOU GOT A LITTLE BETTER!!!!" Then she stuck her head in the room (keep in mind, WE WERE CHANGING AND IN OUR UNDERWEAR) and yelled it again. I was ready to sock her.
So yeah, my teacher is being a really big bitch and there's nothing I can do about it because she has the power to ruin my life. It was all I could do to keep from cussing her out yesterday.


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Re: I can't STAND her anymore!!! - January 18th 2010, 03:56 PM

i don't actually think what she's done/said is that bad.. ok, calling you a horrible dancer is a bit harsh and she could have been a bit more constructive, but over all it sounds like she wants whats best for you.. and obviously she wants you to do well or she wouldn't be so interested in your grades and making sure you don't fail.
if you feel like you're being singled out then maybe speak to her about it but if i were you i'd just let it go over my head and try not to get upset by it. i doubt she means to be bitchy, she's probably just stressed with the upcoming shows and the prospect of losing one of her talented musicians if they fail a class.


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Re: I can't STAND her anymore!!! - January 18th 2010, 04:13 PM

She does want what's best for me, but she doesn't give a rat's ass what I want.


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Re: I can't STAND her anymore!!! - January 18th 2010, 09:54 PM

Do you tell her this though? if you don't say "No, I don't want to be in that group" then she's not going to know that you mind, is she?
Remember you don't have to do the show, you said it's option for you, so she isn't really forcing you to do anything.

As for making you stay behind to finish your essay, tbh I'd say that's being a good teacher, why are you failing and why are you not doing your homework? Perhaps if you did do your homework and didn't fail she wouldn't have to step in? Just something to think about.

The shouting at you think was uncalled for I agree, she should have given you constructive advice or not said anything.

But really
a) If she is keeping you behind to do your homework, that's a good thing and something she should be doing if you don't do it yourself
b) She's not a mind reader, if you're not happy with something, SAY SO! And be assertive!


The thing is, you already said "she does what is best for you". That is the job of a teacher. No student wants to be kept behind, etc, but it is what is best for you...
   
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