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Semester off - March 1st 2012, 10:17 PM

At the end of this semester I will be a first semester senior...or, well, I should be. But I've switched majors three times and transferred to a college in my hometown. And I am just totally burnt out on school. All I do right now is go to school, work, and watching my little brother and sister that I have no time to be a 21 year old living in an amazing city (Louisville, ky). At this point, I don't even care about the classes that I'm taking right now or how I do in them. I just feel like if I'm going to be owing all this money from loans, I should be doing the best I can and right now I KNOW that I'm not doing that. I'm saving up right now so I can move out sometime during the summer, at least by the end, but the sooner the better.

I meet with with my adviser in a few weeks and I'm definitely talking to her about this, but I'm utterly terrified to talk to my parents about this. My parents pay nothing towards my schooling. The only thing they do is fill out my FASFA (a tax form). Plus I am an adult so I know they can't really do anything if I tell them. I just don't when or how to tell them. If anyone can offer me any advise, I'd love to hear it, cause I'm really worried about this.
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Re: Semester off - March 2nd 2012, 01:42 AM

At the end of the day, you need to do what you feel is best for you. Forget about what your parents, friends, and other people say and think about your decisions. You said that you've switched majors and colleges a number of times, so it doesn't seem like you ever figured out what it is that you want. I suggest that you take some time to think about that. It's really important that you do.

Sure, you're still young and have your whole life ahead of you. But I would recommend that you strongly consider your future because it's very important that you have some kind of general idea. I would recommend that you take time off school. I would have recommended this two years ago, really. After a third major change, I think it's time to really sit down and think about what you truly want. You'll always be unsure about what you want but it's so important to feel comfortable with a general path that will lead you somewhere you want to be.

Be open and honest with your parents. They may be upset/disappointed initially, but this is what's best for you at this point. There really is no advantage whatsoever to staying in school longer than you already have, not knowing what you want or caring about how you do. All that will get you is more in debt and a shitty transcript.

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Re: Semester off - March 2nd 2012, 01:48 AM

I know how hard it it to break the news to your parents that you're thinking of taking a semester off. I had to do that after I graduated high school, I didn't want to jump right into college. It was hard to tell them but they understood. Now I'm in college and they're happy but really supportive. At the end of the day, you need to do what's best for you. If you're overly stressed and you think taking a semester off would be what's best, then do that. There's nothing wrong with it. Sure, you'll be a bit behind but it's better to take time off than stress yourself out and not do well. If you cant tell your parents face-to-face, perhaps you can write them a letter and tell them how youre overwhelmed and you cant handle the stress. Just be honest with them and theyll respect you.

I hope this helped.

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Re: Semester off - March 2nd 2012, 02:51 AM

The issue I see is your uncertainty in what you want to study since you switched majors three times. At the college in your hometown, I suspect the same will happen unless you find something you truly enjoy. Perhaps it comes down to taking a variety of courses and seeing which one interests you the most or if you have an ideal career, look what education you would need. Your parents may be able to help you figure out what your interests may be, so be honest and tell them. If you don't, they'd be more pissed that your grades dipped down and you did not confide in them. When you take a semester off and have time for yourself, it's quite possible you'll realize there is something you do enjoy but it was masked by the stress and feeling burnt out. If you have a favourite class, then you could explore how you could pursue such topics.

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