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Unhappy Leave or Stay? - June 25th 2017, 04:19 AM

Here's my depressing situation..
Move to my hometown and get rid of all my animals or stay in this miserable small town and keep my animals.

Ever since I moved away from my hometown I have been depressed but then I visit I'm well.. happy. The move sparked the start of my depression and my dogs/cats are tbh what kept me by. I originally lived in a duplex owned by my grandparents, we got to live in it rent-free as long as there was no animals. We finally have the opportunity to move back and I can't get rid of them ya know? Some people I've talked to about this keep saying there just animals but there not to me.

Of course my mom could find a new place to live but she's currently a full-time college student and can't afford it. And apartments don't allow animals.

I'm so stuck and conflicted. Stay in a place where I have no friends and am miserable but keep the things I love most or move to where I am happy, have friends and loose the things I love most?
   
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Re: Leave or Stay? - June 25th 2017, 06:08 AM

That's such a difficult situation to be stuck in! I can't imagine making it. Are there any friends or family in your hometown who would be willing to adopt your animals and still let you see them?


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Re: Leave or Stay? - June 25th 2017, 12:06 PM

Hello Sage,

It is wonderful you connect with your animals. Animals provide us with a therapeutic connection, they help us to feel calmer if we are upset, and they tend to pick up on little emotions. You made a connection, a strong bond with them.

I am not sure where you are located and if you able to write back on where that is, it would be very helpful.

For an example, I live in Canada, Ontario; the laws here state that we are allowed animals in our homes. There isn't a law saying we can not have an animal in our home. Even if the terms say no pets, they can't tell people to not have pets.

Laws for Landlord and Tenant rights/laws differ from country, province, state, region; but knowing your rights in renting a place or staying at a place that is rent free, they may not have a say in whether or not you bring pets or not if there is a law that clearly outlines that a landlord can not remove you or the animals from the home.

You do have some options. You can look into the laws for Landlord and Tenant rights/laws in your area, you can also call them to ask if it's the law that a landlord can tell someone no pets. Instead of doing the route of thinking of where to give your pets to, look into your rights for living in a new place. If you need some help, I can be more than happy to help you find that information.

I hope this is helpful and if you need anything let me know or write back.


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Re: Leave or Stay? - June 27th 2017, 07:42 AM

I am not sure where you live but in the USA there are a lot of apartments that do allow pets but you have to make a deposit (the deposit can be quite a bit though) some apartments also have a limit on how many animals you can have and how much they can weigh. I am not sure what the policy is on smaller pets like hamsters and guinea pigs since I don't have them.

I think that getting rid of your animals could be quite damaging. I have had to do it when my dad moved me to an apartment complex that did not allow dogs and I was severely depressed.

In most cases, I don't agree with getting rid of animals just because you have to move. However, I know that in some instances there is nothing that can be done. Some people can't afford the pet deposit. Some people can't find an apartment they will be able to afford that also allows pets.

I think that you have to weigh the pro's and con's of the situation. Also, it might be possible for you to find friends or family who can take your animals. If not then I suggest you look into finding no kill shelters that will be able to take your pets.

All in all, this is a difficult situation to be in but you do have to do what will be best for your mental health and if that includes moving than so be it.


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Re: Leave or Stay? - July 1st 2017, 07:35 PM

sucks it has to be one way or the other but lets hope for animals' sake, that there can be somewhere for them to go and people will take care of them, even if you dont have them anymore!
   
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Re: Leave or Stay? - July 1st 2017, 09:23 PM

This sounds like a difficult situation to be in. As others have said, maybe you can look to see if the apartment you plan to move to allows animals or have a couple friends look after them until you are able to care for them again. I believe pets are just as much of family as human beings are. You should also think about your well-being. Could you ask your grandparents what they thing about the matter? Maybe they can give you some ideas, advice, or alternatives?
   
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