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I really need some advice on this... - May 19th 2010, 07:00 PM

Okay so recently, my best friend asked me if I wanted to move to Glasgow with her. One of her friends already lives up there and she wants to move up there to go to college and stuff. So she asked me, and at first I was really unsure because Glasgow is a LOOONG way from home for me. But then something happened with my mum (whole other issue, has a really long back-story that I don't want to go in to) and I just thought 'I'm moving as far away from here as I can get...' So I told my friend I'd move with her. She's moving at the end of July I think because the college term starts in August.
But the thing is, it's going to be so much easier for her to move than it will be for me. She has already moved to Australia before, and without her parents, so she knows what it's like. And plus this friend that's already in Glasgow is someone that she knows and not me, so thats making it easier for her, too. Plus, she works in a coffee shop chain so she'd just need to ask for a transfer to a Glasgow store. I can't do that...
I've been at my job just over a year now, and I was just starting to settle in and really get somewhere. In August I was going to start my NVQ2 in health and social care. Once I have that so many more doors will open for me...I will be actually going somewhere. Plus, the money's not too bad in my job now, and once I have a qualification I will get a payrise. And the home I work in is even paying for me to do this. AND they're paying me for all the time it takes to sit with the tutor! Thats's a really good deal, because if I went to college to do this course it would cost me alot of money and would take a hell of a lot longer to do.
And that's where I need help... Should I stay here with my family (that I don't often see eye to eye with) and really advance in my job and make a good career for myself, or should I take the opportunity to move somewhere new where nobody knows me, with my best friend, get my own house, and start over new?
I am stressing out about this big time... I need to make my decision quick because I need to think about giving in my notice at work/looking for somewhere to live etc. Everytime I think about Glasgow I just get this horrid feeling in my stomach, like nerves or dread or something...
I dunno. I don't want to let my friend down, but I don't want to miss out on a great career opportunity. And I don't want to aggree to move and give my notice at work and pretty much give up my entire life, and then have my friend turn around to me and say 'oh, I don't want to move any more'.
I just have so many worries about this decision...It's sereously stressing me out... Help???


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Re: I really need some advice on this... - May 19th 2010, 07:18 PM

If you're getting a feeling of dread then I don't think Glasgow's the place for you. At least not yet. I think it's more important to get your NVQ done as you said that will open doors for you. Also, if I were in your situation I wouldn't feel comfortable going with my friend if she had another friend up there already, I'd end up feeling like a spare part.


   
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Re: I really need some advice on this... - May 19th 2010, 07:27 PM

But I don't know if it is dread or not... Or like jst general nerves or something... Idk


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Re: I really need some advice on this... - May 19th 2010, 09:13 PM

Why not talk with your friend about this, and let them know how you feel about going up there. I would advise not going because of your work situation. I'm sure your friend would be okay with you not going if you really did not want to because as you said, they have already been over there before and they have a job/friend there for them, they are not going alone/depending on you to be there, so you would not be letting them down so much. Plus, you can always move over there if you still want to, after you finish your NVQ2 and can find a decent job there.

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Re: I really need some advice on this... - May 23rd 2010, 04:24 PM

Stay where you are. Career opportunities don't come up every day but besides that, you don't sound ready to move and as you already said, getting your NVQ is more important. I don't think you'll be letting your friend down seeing as she already has a friend up in Glasgow anyways.

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