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Question Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 12th 2015, 05:03 PM

Lets face the facts, it's porn. Anyone who says, 'oh its actually got a good story line', is just kidding themselves. I don't understand why people are openly going to see this. If I see someone going to watch it, I will judge them. Can someone please explain to me why this filth has now just become the norm?
   
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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 12th 2015, 08:21 PM

Knowing very little about the topic, I'm going to say that I presume the film will be less graphic than the book, as they want to keep the rating low enough to attract larger audiences. The book may be 'pornographic' enough, but it can only get away with it because it's a book. Also Jamie Dornan and whatsherface are both kind of gorgeous, which let's face it, is much the reason a lot of people go to see any film about anything.

Personally, I have never had any interest in reading the books, not because of the subject matter, but because I've heard they're so badly written that I know I'd probably get bored. But after watching the film's trailer I'll admit I want to see it as much as I'd want to see anything else (i.e. I won't go out of my way to see it, but won't actively avoid it if my friends want to go.)

If it calms your worried head, a town in Donegal (just spotted that you're Irish too) have banned the film from the local cinema, inspiring plenty of Father Ted throwbacks across the country. (Careful now....)

http://utv.ie/Entertainment/2015/02/...l-cinema-30404


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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 12th 2015, 08:32 PM

You know what, I just saw a couple of threads from you and I realise now that you may have personal reasons for disapproving of the film's subject - I apologise, maybe I should have been a little more sensitive in my reply.

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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 12th 2015, 09:57 PM

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You know what, I just saw a couple of threads from you and I realise now that you may have personal reasons for disapproving of the film's subject - I apologise, maybe I should have been a little more sensitive in my reply.

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That's very considerate of you, but I don't really think that personal reasons are why I hate it so much. It's mainly the pornographic aspect of it. If they brought porn out in cinemas, people would be outraged and nobody would go see it, but for some reason this has became accepted to go and watch it.
   
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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 13th 2015, 12:32 AM

I'm against it because it's all about sexual abuse. The fact it's coming out on Valentine's Day is even more upsetting.


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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 13th 2015, 09:46 AM

I think it’s becoming the norm, because it started out as against the norm. Erotica has always been around, but not many would admit that they read it (or watched it, if it was porn). But since 50 shades hit the market, I don’t know why or how, it just became popular. And with the film being made, everyone is just more open about it. But yes, if they did openly bring porn into the cinema, there would be outrage. According to my friend, the director in an interview said there was ‘only 20 minutes’ of sexual content in the film (though I find 20 minutes to be too much anyway) and my friend’s twitter feed went crazy that people actually wanted MORE than that.

Personally, I haven’t read the book because it doesn’t interest me. I skimmed through a page in the book shop and I felt it was badly written. I have also seen a post going around the internet that says 50 shades isn’t portraying BDSM, instead it’s more abusive, and if that’s the case, then I’m definitely against it.

But each to their own, I suppose...


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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 15th 2015, 11:42 PM

I read all three and wrote a paper on how their relationship is abusive-- that said, I loved the book and I found it pretty freeing and exciting. Not the sex scene and pornographic elements, but the relationship itself. It was sold out in my theater for Valentines, but I will definitely see it soon.


   
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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 17th 2015, 03:45 AM

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It's about bdsm, not sex abuse. Some people want to feel pain or be dominated (myself included). It turns me on and intensifies the feelings.that said, my problem with fifty shades is that it depicts unsafe sex practices. Safe words are not used in the movie. These should ALWAYS be used when engaging in bondage. Usually stop means stop, but not in bdsm. I say stop when I want more pain. I say taxes when I want to stop. If I'm gagged, my safe word is dropping the handcuff keys that my partner hands me.safe sex is more than just condoms


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Re: Why has it become socially acceptable to see fifty shades of grey? - February 17th 2015, 10:13 AM

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It's about bdsm, not sex abuse. Some people want to feel pain or be dominated (myself included). It turns me on and intensifies the feelings.that said, my problem with fifty shades is that it depicts unsafe sex practices. Safe words are not used in the movie. These should ALWAYS be used when engaging in bondage. Usually stop means stop, but not in bdsm. I say stop when I want more pain. I say taxes when I want to stop. If I'm gagged, my safe word is dropping the handcuff keys that my partner hands me.safe sex is more than just condoms
It's sexual abuse disguised as BDSM. The book goes way beyond the line for sexual abuse vs. BDSM. I'm not sure how much of it is shown in the movie, but the abuse aspect in the book is more than not using safe words.

That being said, that's really my only issue with it being in theaters or "popular." If the movie contained enough sexual content to be porn, it would have a higher rating and wouldn't be shown in theaters. I don't really know why people are so ashamed about sexual things and nudity in the first place.



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