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Insecurity attack - September 26th 2014, 12:02 AM

Again, I received an invitation to one of my good friends' sweet 16 party. It says the dress code doesn't allow pink, black, or white dress. I have the dress that meets the dress code, but it's sleeveless. I somewhat feel scared and insecure thanks to my flabby upper arms. To make it worse, that sleeveless dress is the only dress I have which suits the dress code. Should I wear it anyways without worrying about my insecurity or what? I've tried covering my arms with a bolero or something like that, but it looks weird since it's a halter neck dress.




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Re: Insecurity attack - September 26th 2014, 12:36 AM

Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Clothes should make you feel beautiful, not make you more self conscious. If the dress is bothering you, I would say find something else to wear that will make you feel good and confident. You deserve to feel beautiful because you truly are, it's just difficult for you to see it yourself.
If finding something else isn't possible, embrace your beauty. Be proud of who you are and how you look. We can be very harsh on ourselves sometimes, so I think it's a good idea to step back and tell yourself how amazing you are.
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Re: Insecurity attack - September 26th 2014, 08:19 AM

The clothing fits me perfectly. Not too tight and not too snug which is really comfortable to wear. I like the dress' design, but it's just the sleeveless part that I have a problem with. I'm very self-conscious of my upper arms.




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Re: Insecurity attack - September 27th 2014, 01:37 AM

I would encourage you to defy your insecurity and wear the dress anyways!

However, like Lucent said, it's important to feel good in your clothes. If you think you'll be self-concious the whole time and it'll ruin your enjoyment of the party, maybe you should try to find someting you're more comfortable wearing. I think you can wear the dress and look fabulous, but if the dress will make you insecure to the point where it messes with your enjoyment of the party, it might not be worth it.

So it really depends on how insecure you are. Knowing that, you can decide whether or not it's worth pushing your boundaries and how much you'll be stepping out of your comfort zone by wearing the dress. (Pushing your boundaries little by little is good, and only you know how far this would push you.)
   
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