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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.
Just wondering (and kind of looking for ideas)...
What do you say if/when someone asks where your scars are from or asks what happened? Especially if the person is a child or stranger or family member you're not close to? Do you have different stories you tell different people?
Re: When someone asks -
September 26th 2018, 12:22 AM
Hey,
So what I tell people is that I used to cut, I don't remember, I don't want to talk about it, or just shrug it off and change subjects.
As for ideas on what to tell kids: a cat did it. Make up a story about being attacked by a shark, bear, cheetah, tiger, lion. My friend made up a elaborate story about how she got attacked by a shark and went into great detail, I even jumped in and said I was there(since I knew what it was from) and the person she said this to believed her and he was a 9th, 10th, or 11th grader. So that can work.
As for what to tell adults I would say: I don't remember, shrug it off, change the subject, tell them its personal, you rather not say.
I would suggest you check out this link that has a list of alternatives instead of self-harm.
I hope this has helped you can always PM/VM me anytime you need to talk.
Your Friend,
Frankie<3
Re: When someone asks -
September 26th 2018, 02:55 AM
Thanks for the ideas
Sorry, but that's kind of hilarious about the shark story (not your friend's self harm, just that the kid believed her elaborate tale)
I've been clean since january so things are better.
Just thinking about situations that might arise.
Last edited by DeletedAccount88; September 26th 2018 at 10:56 PM.
Re: When someone asks -
September 29th 2020, 05:12 PM
I personally just tell people "It happened a while ago." And then move on from the conversation as quickly as possible. If they ask me what happened, I just tell them I was hurt really bad! People are just curious, and as irritating as that is, I am a survivor and I am not gonna hide my body or feel ashamed for something I have no control over now.
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Just a few of my favorite Marilyn Monroe quotes
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"Everybody is always tugging at you. They'd all like a sort of chunck out of you. I don't think they realize it, but it's like 'grrr do this, grr do that...' But you do want to stay intact and on two feet."
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"I was never used to being happy, so that wasn't something I took for granted. You see, I was brought up differently from the average American child because the average American child is brought up expecting to be happy."
Re: When someone asks -
October 2nd 2020, 06:01 PM
I usually tell people the truth and move on quickly. I have so many scars and they're in patterns so it doesn't really look like it could've been an accident. They don't need to know the details, though. For children I just say I got hurt really bad when I was young and move past it.
Re: When someone asks -
October 3rd 2020, 08:24 AM
My niece has asked me and I told her 'I was hurt a long time ago but the doctors helped make me better.' I don't think it's healthy to lie to children about something like that because once they figure out you lied there is a chance they won't trust you.
As for adults, I hide it at work and pretty much every other adult I'm close to knows and random people don't ask. I'm assuming they don't ask because it's evident I self harmed but I'm not sure.
Re: When someone asks -
January 6th 2021, 06:35 AM
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Originally Posted by Ashen
Just wondering (and kind of looking for ideas)...
What do you say if/when someone asks where your scars are from or asks what happened? Especially if the person is a child or stranger or family member you're not close to? Do you have different stories you tell different people?
Depends on the person you're facing on. But if it's someone closely-related to you then I would tell them the truth because I believe in the saying " no man is an island ".