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Moving out, moving on. - July 13th 2009, 05:36 PM

Where would this go exactly?

Well lets see.
For those that don't know.
I'm J.
I'm 16 years of age.

I'm moving out tomorrow/wednesday.
Away from home into a housing place for people aged 16 -18
Filling out forms, activiating cards making appointments.

But, heres the thing.
Although i'm not coping very well with my current situation and all the events that has happened to me. I'm trying.

But no one wants to support me. No one thinks I can do it.
Everyone things I can't do things myself and that i'll fail.

I've applied for further education, and got a back up just incase.
Again people think i'm either being stupid or growing up too quickly.

I'm just trying to sort my life out.
I'm constantly depressed and bla bla bla.
I need a fresh start.
Change of scene.

People have told me themselves, get your act together and sort your f***ing life out.
But when it comes down to it. I'm either doing it wrong, or not allowed to do it or told i'll just fail.

So what do i do?
Stay at home, constantly depressed and getting worse.
Live on job seekers, do sod all and just get your mum and her partner going at you all the time, or taking the mickey outta you behind your back and telling you your screwed up cant think for yourself or do anything.
And then have them drunk all the time and have a go at you?

I would like my independance back, get out of the area where I am constantly bullied, and away from my mum and partner due to what they do and what they are like.

People tell me to do things, and when I do them, i'm either pathetic a failure or just plain stupid. Yet when I don't do them I'm even worse and get called much much worse things.

I had a huge breakdown in public yesterday so i'm not myself anyway.
But I think i'm doing the right thing. As does my social worker, and my clinic.

What am I supposedly doing wrong?

You can move this post, I just thought it didn't fit in particular forums after reading the description but I have most probably misunderstood.

Thanks.

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Re: Moving out, moving on. - July 13th 2009, 10:33 PM

I was in your place two years ago, i stayed at home....

It's not too bad you don't pay rent your food is free ect all nice things.
So im still living with a drunk for a mother now im Eighteen i can get a REAL job and now i can get more help with moving out .

If i was you i would stick to college get some money saved up and then mvoe out once you are done.

I know you want to be free and you want to have more control of your life but really it's soo hard to do at Sixteen sure you can do it but it will be ALOT harder... A year more or so can't hurt to bad now can it ?


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Re: Moving out, moving on. - July 13th 2009, 10:47 PM

I told everyone for years I was moving out. No one believed me. The night of my birthday, I left. I haven't been back. And I throw that in my mothers face, because I will make it. No matter what. You can do the same. Don't be scared.


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Re: Moving out, moving on. - July 14th 2009, 08:01 PM

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I was in your place two years ago, i stayed at home....

It's not too bad you don't pay rent your food is free ect all nice things.
So im still living with a drunk for a mother now im Eighteen i can get a REAL job and now i can get more help with moving out .

If i was you i would stick to college get some money saved up and then mvoe out once you are done.

I know you want to be free and you want to have more control of your life but really it's soo hard to do at Sixteen sure you can do it but it will be ALOT harder... A year more or so can't hurt to bad now can it ?

Food isn't free, i have to pay for that as well at 13.60 pounds a week and toiletries etc etc but sorting out money and college is very difficult seeming as the systems here suck


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Re: Moving out, moving on. - July 14th 2009, 08:11 PM

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Food isn't free, i have to pay for that as well at 13.60 pounds a week and toiletries etc etc but sorting out money and college is very difficult seeming as the systems here suck
You got to the cheapest food store around, and you go to the dollar store for the other stuff. I know how to live cheap, and If that's what you gotta do, you gotta do it.


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Re: Moving out, moving on. - July 14th 2009, 09:40 PM

Hey J. If your home situation is this bad, you shouldn't have to put up with it. I know it must be a tough decision, but I think the main thing you need to consider is - where do you think you'll be happier? If you feel that you could live an easier and better life away from your family, maybe that's the decision you need to make.

Unfortunately, though, it's not as easy as simply picking up and leaving in the blink of an eye. Have you found out how much money you have to pay for rent at this place, and do you think you'll be able to come up with that amount of money each month? If you have enough money to support yourself, even if that money may be short, I wouldn't let anything else hold you back. I'd still have a few people set aside that you can depend on though, in case something goes wrong and you need a bit of help. But the important thing is that you truly believe you're ready to support yourself. If you can, then, I'd say go for it.

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Re: Moving out, moving on. - July 14th 2009, 10:24 PM

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Food isn't free, i have to pay for that as well at 13.60 pounds a week and toiletries etc etc but sorting out money and college is very difficult seeming as the systems here suck

Well i'm from the Uk too :P I know some info on our systems.

Realistically you can't really leave home and Do college at the same time.

If you are depressed you can try to go and see your Doctor and tell him your are well ...depressed,If you have this in Writing you maybe able to claim Disability Living Allowance (about 200-400 Every two weeks) as well as your job seekers Allowance (should be 90)

If you do take the depressed line it will also bump you up on the housing list in with you will be able to get a One bedroom flat in witch you will have to pay 5 rent each week.

You may be able to do college all depending on witch course you wish to do as long as you take all help offered.

To your plan on moving to a "housing place" This is a place where you should KEEP AWAY FROM at all costs as they are often full of drug addicts and Alcoholics.

Good luck with whatever tho


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