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View Poll Results: Love, sex, career or money?
Love 42 77.78%
Sex 13 24.07%
Career 28 51.85%
Money 16 29.63%
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Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 05:15 PM

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Bearing in mind, say you had the basic commodities, ie. food, water, a roof over your head a few friends... What would you choose as the two to go alongside if you had to live with those 2, and no more for the rest of your life? Bearing in mind money would buy you lots more food, water, better house etc... Oh and assuming love doesnt mean sex too

I've been thinking people often say love or money... But then tend to forget sex and career lol, so which would you rather have... Or a combination? Bearing in mind if you have all 4 you'll have very little time for each of them... As I see it;

- Love plays a huge role in peoples lives but it has extremes, however I've found personally I can never be completely happy without love. However love has its ups and downs and relying solely on love... Well it will disappoint.

- Money is a nice commodity to have, we can spoil people we love, and have everything we want, you can to some extent buy peoples affections, but then that does say alot about you as a person, it is often associated with career too.

- Career and by this I mean having the career you want, not just a job, but a passion for something, maybe being a photographer, or a musician, something you can really enjoy, however there are a fair amount of people who choose career over love, some cannot exist side by side, for example if your going to be all over the place, love tend to come second place, and that wouldn't be fair on the other person right?

- Sex! Well this ones kind of obvious, it can be a result of any of the last 3, but then again do you want it for what you feel is the right reason?

So what'll it be TH'ers?

EDIT: Oh and my preferences are Love and career, I can live without sex, and yes I have proven that... But also I'm really passionate about what I want to do for a career... sex and money are just nice things to have

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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:00 PM

Money and sex if I had to choose 2. Mainly because, for many people, a career is merely a means to an end and the end is money, so if you have money then you cut out the middle man and you don't need a career.

Also, love is all very well. But a loving relationship without sex would always have something missing for me and I'd go and look for that sex from someone else which would inevitably destroy the relationship. Sex is a very real part of love to me.

Though I'm hoping for all 4 in my future.
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:22 PM

all of them :]

lots of money is probably the one i'd want the most though..


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:34 PM

I want love, but what is love without sex, just a good friendship in my opinion.
I could be happy without money or a career, but perhaps I would always wish.
For this, I'd say love and career, I'd want a person in my life, and something to focus on and push me. I'd want to have a person I come home to to tell about my awesome day
Sure, life would be hard with no sex... but eh, I can be intellectually stimulated instead xD


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:37 PM

Money and Love.
Money, cos you need it to buy things with and live basically. Life costs money.
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:39 PM

I picked love and career.
I want to be able to go home and relax maybe watch a movie with my love and tell him about my day. But also with career comes money and I want to have money so that if I want to go for example on vacations I have my own money and not depend on my partner.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:48 PM

Love, if I had to chose one, tbh. It'd be nice to have all four though.
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:49 PM

Just love.
All I need is love with or without sex.
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 06:59 PM

You said that we would have all the basic commodities, so as long as I have the necessities, I could survive without money.

And sex is great, I'm sure, but (1.) I'm a virgin. Can't miss what you've never had. (2.) Love and career are way more important.
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 07:16 PM

Hmmm, that was incredibly tough. I guess I'd have to choose Love and a Career. Sex I could live without I think, and money isn't too important to me, even though it is nice to have some extra.
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 07:49 PM

I chose love and career. I could live without sex. If I had a career then it would bring in a wage, even if it's incredibly basic. If I was doing something I loved, and came home to somebody I loved, I would be happy.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 09:02 PM

Love and Career.

Love: I know without someone to love or love me back I would go crazy. Love is one of the most important things to me.

Career: I would be happy as Larry to have a career I'd love and I guess having a good career will bring in money too. Even if I'm not 'rich' as long as I'm not homeless and have a decent amount of income I would be happy.

I'm pretty sure I could live without sex and a lot of money.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 09:05 PM

Money buys all of that stuff.

Career - You can basically sit in on any job as if you were doing it, because you don't need a job for the money.
Love - No such thing. Romanticized attraction.
Sex - Money gets that too!

So yeah, money wins for me


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 1st 2009, 09:32 PM

I voted love and career.
Sex, sure it's good and all but I could live without it. Money, same reason. I think sharing your life with someone and doing something you're passionate about are much more important qualities than money or sex.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 04:06 AM

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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 05:12 AM

I would definately choose love and sex.

Material possessions aren't that important to me, so I don't care that much about having money as long as I can afford the necessities of life. And the only reason I'd care about a career is to make enough money to live, so really this was an easy choice for me. There is nothing more important in life to me than love, and sex is the ultimate expression of that love.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 08:17 AM

I'd much rather that I have at least a little of all four, as I think most people would, but as for what order I value them in:

1. Love
2. Sex
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4. Career

I was actually surprised at how little thinking this took. For me love is first, no matter what. Love over sex, and certainly love over money. Between money and career, I'd choose money. Like Jack said, for me a career is just a means to money. It doesn't have to be true if you're passionate about your career, but my passions really don't lend themselves well to having careers built on them (though they do lend themselves well to love and sex ). Between sex and money for second and third was the only one that gave me a moment's pause, but I think I'd rather just live on the necessities and be able to enjoy sex with my partner than live richly but have that facet of our relationship be always missing. I tend to define my life by the people I share it with, so I generally value my friends and relationships over anything else.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 12:15 PM

Career would come first for me. Passion is invaluable, and to build a life around that passion is something larger than life.

Love would be second. I can live without it, but without love, what is passion?

I understand that love should come before career, but my definition of love is something so diverse that it covers all bounds and passion seems to be a subdivision of love. You must love something to be passionate about it, in my opinion.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 01:52 PM

I'd say either love or career. I could live without the other two.
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 03:29 PM

I would definitely choose love and career. So long as I had basic necessities, I could survive without money; sex without love is something I do not even want, let alone need. However, I do need someone to love, and I need a purpose in life (i.e., a career). I do not think I could be happy without those two things.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 04:29 PM

Love or money. If it was guaranteed that it'd all work out well then I'd definetly choose love, otherwise I'd choose money because you don't exactly have to put your trust in money and it can't hurt you as much as a person, in my opinion at least.
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 05:47 PM

love. nothing more or nothing less. i'd literaly rather be completly poor on the streets with no money at all but being able to sit in the arms of the one i love. ofcourse money is important but i'd rather die knowing i loved rather than dying being stinky rich and lonely. unless i was rich and with the one i love,that would be cool . i think i'd offend someone if i chose a career or money over them lol i'd be offended personally too so yh i think i've gotta say love is what i'd personaly choose
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 06:27 PM

I would choose love and money. If I had love, I'd never be lonely... And if I had money, why would I need a career? lol


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 09:02 PM

Love and money. Without a career or sex, I could be happy if I only had love and money. I could be happy with just love really, but I've always wanted to have money.




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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 09:07 PM

Love and a career.

A career usually brings money in and you said I could have my dream career and my dream career is highly paid.

I like to have someone to love too. Just having a career wouldn't be the same without having someone to come home to each night.

I haven't had sex yet so I didn't really want to choose that since I don't know what it's like but I do think that sexual attraction plays a big part in relationships so there'd have to be some attraction there.


   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 09:14 PM

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Love: I know without someone to love or love me back I would go crazy. Love is one of the most important things to me.

Career: I would be happy as Larry to have a career I'd love and I guess having a good career will bring in money too. Even if I'm not 'rich' as long as I'm not homeless and have a decent amount of income I would be happy.

I'm pretty sure I could live without sex and a lot of money.

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Love and career baby Wasn't a hard decision personally.
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 10:36 PM

Love and a career...think its rather obvious. Though my belief in love is start to change.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 2nd 2009, 11:12 PM

wow, a lot of people saying love. hmm.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 3rd 2009, 12:13 AM

If you pick money can you buy sex?
   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 3rd 2009, 12:41 AM

I picked money, love and sex. If you just have an excessive amount of money you wouldn't need a career, which would give you enough time for love. Sex is also a natural human desire, so I certainly don't want to deny my needs my entire life.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 3rd 2009, 08:13 PM

I think a balance of all four would be the best option. I certainly would like to have all four. Love and Career are a good combination though, because both would probably lead to the other two.


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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 4th 2009, 02:58 PM

I picked Love and Sex.

Love- There is no way on earth I could live without love. Love is more important than money or finding a job you like. Love is a passion. It's amazing and you can't live without it. I am very much love oriented. Plus, I want to find TRUE love.

Sex- I have experienced having money... and having passions, but I have never had sex. I don't think I could live without at least trying sex once.


   
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Re: Love, money, sex or career? - October 4th 2009, 03:12 PM

love and money of course - the only things i really need in life


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