Finding it hard

[Nashy]

Hi I'm I know this sounds weird and it has probably never happened to any of u guys before but I have been taking Driving lesson for a while now and I am close to going for my license the problem is I have never really had a dad or any close male influence in my life and I think through learning I have formed an attachment with my driving instructor like I'm feint really sad and depressed whenever I think about passing my test and not being able to see him anymore I really appreciate him and he is like a father figure to me like he makes me laugh and he is nice to me he truly cares and ask me how everything is going etc and also when I'm sad I just book a lesson and it makes me feel a whole lot better it's almost like a place where I can just relax and I really enjoy spending time with him I think he is a great man and his family is lucky and I'm grateful I got to know him but the hardest thing is I can't even handle the thought of not seeing him anymore we got so close and we just bonded I feel like he gets me and yeh he is like the dad I never had like I really care about him and I would like to still have him in my life even in the smallest way and I'm also scared that I will forget him which i really don't want to Do because it's been a really great experience and instead of being excited to get my license I'm finding my self really sad and depressed and I feel like Im loosing something instead of gaining something (( help pls. ! ( I'm 17 btw )
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[Heartlines.]

Hey there, I was the same way with my driving instructor. He was a really great guy. I too, don't have a father figure, so I'm naturally drawn to the fatherly types. There was times in drivers ed where I got advice from my instructor on life issues. There are two things you can do in a situation like this. You can talk to your instructor. Tell him something like "I've really enjoyed your class, and our talks during lessons. I would really like to keep in contact, so I was wondering if we could email once in a while. You're someone I really look up to and would hate to lose contact." Or, you could take all that you've gotten from the class and instructor and really reflect on it as it being a strong point in your life. Meaning, look at this as a learning experience and grow from it. That's always a great way to look at it. Good luck!

[Nashy]

Naaw thank you so much it's good to know that I'm not being weird and that someone out there as been in the same. I will definitely let him know like you said how much I appreciate him and how much I have enjoyed it etc I will just have to find the right way to say it .... But do you think that I should come out and say it to him that I have been seeing him as a father figure. ???

Thank you !!

[Heartlines.]

No problem!
I think whether or not you tell him the part about being a fatherly figure is up to you.
He may either find it weird, or be really happy you feel that way.
Personally, I would wait to tell him, and keep it simple.

[JKmadu619]

It's not unusual. You mentioned lacking a father figure. Typically father's teach their children exciting life skills (Unlike highschool teachers, which do not teach the same thing as a coach or driving instructor), and do so kindly. Your driving instructor does this and it's natural that you see him fufilling the fatherly role. I would come clean with your feelings and ask to stay in contact, or else you might regret it later.

- Justin

[Nashy]

Thank you both so much I will definitely let him know how I feel about it all and hopefully he won't think I'm some weirdo and hopefully he would suggest a way of keeping in contact. My friends suggested maybe offering to babysit his kids in a way of showing my appreciation what do you guys think ?
Thank you